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    <updated>2009-11-10T19:32:31Z</updated>
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    <title>Because I said so</title>
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    <published>2009-11-13T19:28:50Z</published>
    <updated>2009-11-10T19:32:31Z</updated>

    <summary>What other parent-isms have I let go recently?I don&apos;t say, &quot;I&apos;m the mom, that&apos;s why,&quot; although Hubby tells the boys he&apos;s their boss. To which my boys reply, &quot;Yes, but Mama&apos;s YOUR boss.&quot; Indeed!To stop the &quot;he touched me&quot; &quot;he&apos;s...</summary>
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        <name>Anissa</name>
        
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        <![CDATA[What other parent-isms have I let go recently?<br /><br />I don't say, "I'm the mom, that's why," although Hubby tells the boys he's their boss. To which my boys reply, "Yes, but Mama's YOUR boss." Indeed!<br /><br />To stop the "he touched me" "he's looking at me" and fighting in the car, I don't threaten to turn the car around. The boys are mortally afraid of losing privileges and their most beloved toys (these days that's Bakugan, and if you're not a parent of a boy, you wouldn't understand.)<br /><br />Anyway, just for fun, I counted how many times I said "Be careful" to both boys in one day. My total was 16. Really have to learn to let go a bit, hmm?<br /><br /><br /> ]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>Mom&apos;s the Word giveaway</title>
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    <published>2009-11-10T16:42:11Z</published>
    <updated>2009-11-10T16:49:19Z</updated>

    <summary><![CDATA[May heaven shower the creator of nursing covers with its choicest blessings. &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Nursing covers (my favorite is Bebe Au Lait's Hooter Hiders in cream eyelet) are one of those mommy things that makes having a baby more fun and...]]></summary>
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        <name>Anissa</name>
        
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        <![CDATA[May heaven
shower the creator of nursing covers with its choicest blessings.

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Nursing
covers (my favorite is <span style="border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(0, 102, 204); background: transparent none repeat scroll 0% 0%; cursor: pointer; -moz-background-clip: border; -moz-background-origin: padding; -moz-background-inline-policy: continuous;" class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1257871198_0">Bebe Au Lait</span>'s <span style="border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(0, 102, 204); cursor: pointer;" class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1257871198_1">Hooter Hiders</span> in cream eyelet) are one of
those mommy things that makes <span style="border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(0, 102, 204); cursor: pointer;" class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1257871198_2">having a baby</span> more fun and convenient, right up
there with the Boppy, pacifier covers, a good baby carrier and anything that
helps baby sleep. <span style="">&nbsp;</span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">Elementary parenting stuff made
cool. </p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>After three
kids, I know I don't have to have those pee-pee teepee covers to avert diaper
changing geysers (a tissue or napkin will do just fine), nor do I need the $1,600
Louis Vuitton diaper bag. (My sister bought me a cute <span style="background: transparent none repeat scroll 0% 0%; cursor: pointer; -moz-background-clip: border; -moz-background-origin: padding; -moz-background-inline-policy: continuous;" class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1257871198_3">Petunia Pickle Bottom</span> one
at 75 percent off from a store that was closing. Otherwise, my old one still
works.) And no, my little one will not be wearing a $190 checked Burberry
dress.</p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>But every
year, there are new products and baby items out there that make parenting
easier and/or just more fun.</p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>The byword
of all things baby these days is eco-friendly, so items boast about being green
and free of chemicals, solvents, and other yucky stuff. Think hypoallergenic,
all-natural, organic, and sustainable. Another byword (at least for me) is affordable.
But if it works, I will pay more for it (Wonder Boy had sensitive skin as a
newborn and the Mustela line of baby products was the only one that worked for
him.)</p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>What are
some of the newest products making waves these days?</p> ]]>
        <![CDATA[Episencial,
the makers of Epicuren Baby, have debuted a <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1257871198_4">new skin care line</span> for babies and
kids based upon the same high quality, chemical free formulas and green
manufacturing practices designed for the eco and budget conscious family.&nbsp;

<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">Epicuren Baby is the all-natural
immune boosting skin care for babies and kids beloved by a devoted following
among childbirth professionals and Hollywood 's
new moms.</p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">Kim Walls, Episencial's CEO and a
mom, of course, was inspired by "The<i style=""> </i><em><span style="font-style: normal;">Very Hungry Caterpillar"</span>
</em>by <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1257871198_5">Eric Carle</span> and so came up with a <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1257871198_6">baby skin care</span> system inspired by that
book. It that includes a high concentration of organic ingredients and fruit extracts
that nourish the skin and (this is a big one for me) everything smells
terrific. </p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">"As a mom, I'm proud to be able to
offer honestly effective and green products at a reasonable price that can be
found at stores I shop at all the time," Walls said.</p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">Priced between $5 and $15, the line
will be available this month nationwide at stores such as Whole Foods and
Target. Go to <a target="_blank" href="http://episencial.com/sproutbaby/"><span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1257871198_7">http://episencial.com/sproutbaby/</span></a> and get 20 percent off your
order through Nov. 15.</p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">Even my 7-year-old liked the
Twilight Turtle from the Cloud B company, which turns any room into a starry
sky, complete with a constellation guide for bigger kids. My baby loves staring
at the amber, blue or green stars almost as much as she loves snuggling with
the Gentle Giraffe, which offers <span style="border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(0, 102, 204); cursor: pointer;" class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1257871198_8">soothing sounds</span> such as....that relaxes baby and
me.</p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;"> Aden 
+ Anais offers sleep sacks and a new line of burp cloths that double as bibs,
hence its name, the burpy bib. All made of muslin, like its popular
multipurpose and huge baby wraps, the sleep sack is perfect for California
climes and the burpy bib is all I use these days. It's shaped to drape nicely
over your shoulder, gives you lots of coverage, its reversible, and it doubles
as a bib. I love its soft, breathable weave. (The company's new Web site
launches Nov. 15 at <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://www.adenandanais.com/"><span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1257871198_9">www.adenandanais.com</span></a>
or follow them at <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1257871198_10">Facebook</span>.) </p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">It's no surprise my favorite baby
gear and accessories are made by parents themselves, since who better to test
out products on than your own small wonders? In the end, every parent gets that
the No. 1 baby must-have isn't what <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1257871198_11">Angelina Jolie</span>'s kids are wearing.</p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">It's what works for you.</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">But wait! There's more! A reader of Mom's the Word can win a muslin sleeping bag from Aden and Anais by leaving a comment with your baby must-have. These sleeping bags won an IParenting Media award for best products this year. Winner will be selected randomly on Monday, Nov. 16. Good luck!<br /></p>]]>
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<entry>
    <title>Happy now</title>
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    <id>tag:www.insidesocal.com,2009:/mom//286.148948</id>

    <published>2009-11-06T11:06:32Z</published>
    <updated>2009-11-06T11:18:20Z</updated>

    <summary>Remember that Friends episode where Frank, Phoebe&apos;s brother, complains to her about how harried and hectic life is with his triplets? His kids are so rowdy, he says. They&apos;re so hard to take care of.Phoebe, without missing a beat, tells...</summary>
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        <![CDATA[Remember that Friends episode where Frank, Phoebe's brother, complains to her about how harried and hectic life is with his triplets? His kids are so rowdy, he says. They're so hard to take care of.<br /><br />Phoebe, without missing a beat, tells him, "Well, let me help you. Give me Frank Jr. Jr.," and Frank says, "Oh no, not him! He's my little guy!" and proceeds to list all the great things about each child (Leslie and Chandler...OK, I had to look this up! I really don't know all the kids' names offhand.)<br /><br />Ah, here's a synopsis: "Frank reappears in a later season and tries to convince Phoebe to take
one of the triplets, because he claims to have not slept in four years.
For arguments sake, they discuss which of the children Phoebe will
take. She asks for Frank Jr. Jr., but Frank decides that Frank Jr. Jr.
is too funny and that she can't take him. She then asks for Leslie, but
he says no, because she is the only one who knows how to burp the
alphabet. Phoebe then suggests Chandler, to which Frank replies, 'Oh,
no, no, you can't have Chandler, no. No, no. She's my little genius. I
got big hopes for her. She's gonna be a doctor or a realtor.' He then
realizes that he has run out of children to give up and that he loves
his children way too much to ever give any of them away.
<br /><br />In the end, Frank realizes once again how good he has it.<br /><br /><br /> ]]>
        <![CDATA[These days, even though baby is sleeping really well, I am having more moments when it seems Wonder Boy just doesn't stop talking, it takes me raising my voice to get Firstborn Son to pick up his socks and baby wants to be held all the time. Sometimes, I remember half an hour later, "Oh yeah, I've been needing to go to the bathroom for a while!"<br /><br />That's when I think of Phoebe and Frank's conversation and realize yup, oh baby, it sure is hard to live the day to day with three kids. But oh mama, how much harder would it be to live without them.<br /><br />]]>
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<entry>
    <title>Candy coma</title>
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    <published>2009-11-03T02:24:11Z</published>
    <updated>2009-11-03T02:26:56Z</updated>

    <summary>Mini Snickers for breakfast (hey, it&apos;s got peanuts!)A Hershey&apos;s bite-size bar after lunch.Half a Kit Kat shared with Wonder Boy for an afternoon snack.Reese&apos;s peanut butter cup inhaled while making dinner.Life is super sweet for all the parents indulging in...</summary>
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        <![CDATA[Mini Snickers for breakfast (hey, it's got peanuts!)<br /><br />A Hershey's bite-size bar after lunch.<br /><br />Half a Kit Kat shared with Wonder Boy for an afternoon snack.<br /><br />Reese's peanut butter cup inhaled while making dinner.<br /><br />Life is super sweet for all the parents indulging in the fruits of their kids' Halloween labors.<br /> ]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>Ghost story</title>
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    <published>2009-10-30T20:48:28Z</published>
    <updated>2009-10-30T21:11:33Z</updated>

    <summary>Take this as you will. It&apos;s my story and it really happened. I offer no explanations, just the narration. And, by the way, happy hauntings!...</summary>
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        <name>Anissa</name>
        
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        <![CDATA[Take this as you will. It's my story and it really happened. I offer no explanations, just the narration. And, by the way, happy hauntings!<br /><br /><br /> ]]>
        <![CDATA[I spent the summer of 1991 in San Jose, working for a new fashion
magazine. Its offices were in downtown San Jose, in a five-story
building that was supposedly the first "high-rise" in the city. I had worked there for several weeks and nothing spooky happened. I actually felt pretty safe since there was a security guard stationed on the ground floor, and there weren't that many tenants coming and going.<br /><br />One night (it always has to be a night, doesn't it?) my boss and co-workers/roommates and I were invited to a party. Since I had a lot of typing and writing to do, I opted out, asking my roomies to pick me up on the way home.<br /><br />They left, locking me in the spacious, two-room office. Everything went swimmingly for about five minutes, I was typing away, when the lights turned off with a loud boom.<br /><br />"Great," I thought, staring at the computer screen. "Blackout."<br /><br />I turned to look out the window and saw the lights were on in the street some floors down. I could also see the glare of lights coming from the floor directly below me. I looked up. Lights were on up there too. Feeling a bit cold all of sudden, I checked out the offices beside mine...yup, they had their lights on too.<br /><br />That's when I stood up and as I did, the lights turned back on again. You'd think I would have felt relieved, but I didn't. Call it my writer's imagination, but I could actually FEEL something/someone almost laughing at me. Heeby jeebies? I got a few.<br /><br />Feeling even more dread, I walked through one door to the publisher's office and then stopped. I stared at the big stereo system the boss had on a black stand. The illuminated green line marking the stations was sashaying side to side, as was the volume indicator. I looked at the dials that controlled both and saw it wasn't moving. Looked again at the lines. Still moving.<br /><br />What did I think at this point? All I could think of was, "Hey! Did I turn that radio on?"<br /><br />Go figure.<br /><br />Anyway, at that point, my hands started sweating for the first time in my life. It took all my willpower to pick up the phone and call my roommate, who must have thought her crying friend on the other line had gone bonkers. She promised to send Ricky, one of our co-workers.<br /><br />I sat on the publisher's chair and started praying out loud. For a couple of minutes after that, I could hear the elevator doors out in the hall opening with a friendly "ping!" but I couldn't hear any steps on the carpet. Finally, the elevator pinged once more and I heard Ricky running to the door and pounding on it. (I was locked in, remember?")<br /><br />I was SO SURE something was going to stop me from walking across the room and opening the door, but nothing or no one did. Ricky escorted a weepy me to the elevator and out that building.<br /><br />Needless to say, I never stayed in that office alone.<br /><br />I called my mom that night and told her my creepy tale. Ever the pragmatist, she said, "Better a ghost than a real person who could have hurt you!"<br /><br />The magazine publisher blithely said he'd heard a woman had been killed in the building years and years ago.<br /><br />"Maybe she was trying to tell you to get out and not be in the building alone," he said, seeking to comfort me.<br /><br />It didn't much help.<br /><br />Happy Halloween, everyone!<br /><br />Got any ghost tales from around this Valley?<br /><br /><br />&nbsp;<br />]]>
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<entry>
    <title>Mom knows</title>
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    <published>2009-10-28T15:38:18Z</published>
    <updated>2009-10-27T15:58:31Z</updated>

    <summary>No more baby geniuses?All this brouhaha over Baby Einstein may anger some parents. Some may throw out all their baby DVDs and LeapFrogs. I say something a wise friend told me when my firstborn was days old: &quot;Follow your instinct.&quot;The...</summary>
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        <name>Anissa</name>
        
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        <![CDATA[No more baby geniuses?<br /><br />All this brouhaha over Baby Einstein may anger some parents. Some may throw out all their baby DVDs and LeapFrogs. I say something a wise friend told me when my firstborn was days old: "Follow your instinct."<br /><br /><span class="BlogPostWords">The people at the Campaign for Commercial-Free Childhood </span>claimed victory in their campaign against Baby Einstein (a Disney company) because Baby Einstein (to avoid a class action lawsuit, I presume) released a statement <span class="BlogPostWords">announcing it was going to begin issuing refunds for its Baby
Einstein videos. Buyers of the DVDs can return them to Disney for
$15.99 or exchange them for other products.<br /><br />Nowhere did they admit, though, that the DVDs have no value.<br /><br /><br /> </span> ]]>
        <![CDATA[So, yeah, we own a bunch of Baby Einstein DVDs, and we got them for Firstborn Son when they came out in videos only. We have some of the accompanying books too. (So there!) Our favorites were Baby Shakespeare (poetry) and Baby Neptune (water play). Will I throw all this away? Nope.<br /><br />My boys enjoyed all these DVDs and my baby daughter will too. The <span class="BlogPostWords">Campaign for Commercial-Free Childhood, as with every other childhood education expert out there, recommends children under 2 not watch any television at all. I subscribed to that belief....until I had my first child.<br /><br />I admit I sat Firstborn Son in front of the telly when he was 9 months old, mostly to be able to cook dinner, but also because I was excited to see what his reaction would be to Baby Einstein and Sesame Street. Wonder Boy got an even earlier start at TV because Big Brother wanted to watch, and their baby sister (although she just turns toward the noise these days) is already exposed to TV watching. Are they there all day? No.<br /><br />So what to make of all the hoopla?<br /><br />Nothing. Parents should trust their own instincts. I've learned to read up and study on things and then make up my own mind.<br /><br />Will my boys grow up to be Nobel Prize-winning scientists? Who knows?<br /><br />Now tell me, what do you think of this My Baby Can Read DVDs?<br /></span>]]>
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<entry>
    <title>Name that baby No. 3</title>
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    <id>tag:www.insidesocal.com,2009:/mom//286.147579</id>

    <published>2009-10-27T15:25:39Z</published>
    <updated>2009-10-27T15:33:05Z</updated>

    <summary>I&apos;m thinking Best Girl, after that song from &quot;Mame&quot; which kinda shows my showtunes-heavy playlist. Remember little Patrick sings this song to Mame:Young Patrick:You&apos;re my best girl and nothing you do is wrong,I&apos;m proud you belong to me;And if a...</summary>
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        <name>Anissa</name>
        
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        <![CDATA[I'm thinking Best Girl, after that song from "Mame" which kinda shows my showtunes-heavy playlist. Remember little Patrick sings this song to Mame:<br /><br /><font size="2" face="arial">Young Patrick:<br />You're my best girl and nothing you do is wrong,<br />I'm proud you belong to me;<br />And if a day is rough for me,<br />Having you there's enough for me.<br />And if someday another girl comes along,<br />It won't take her long to see,<br />That I'll still be found, just hanging around<br />My best girl.<br />Mame:<br />You're my best beau, you're handsome and brave and strong,<br />There's nothing we two can't face;<br />If you're with me, whatever comes,<br />We'll see that trouble never comes.<br />And if someday another beau comes along<br />Determined to take your place,<br />I hope he's resigned to falling behind,<br />My best beau.<br />Mame And young Patrick:<br />And if someday when everything turns out wrong,<br />You're through with the human race,<br />Come running to me,<br />Mame:<br />For I'll always be<br />Your best girl...<br />Young Patrick:<br />My best girl!</font><br /> ]]>
        <![CDATA[Hubby calls her, "Beautiful," or "Little One."<br /><br />I was thinking maybe Beautiful Gorgeous, for fans of Jimmy Neutron. I just love how they piled on the adjectives. Beautiful Gorgeous was actually a villain (voiced by Wendie Malick of "Racing Stripes" and loads of TV shows.) This name, of course, is said with a wink. Although we think our daughter IS gorgeous, we wouldn't seriously call her that.<br /><br />Anyway, she's calling me from her car seat now. (She slept on the way back from dropping Big Brother off at school, and I left her in there so I can write!)<br /><br />Next! <br />]]>
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<entry>
    <title>Baby smiles</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.insidesocal.com/mom/2009/10/baby-smiles.html" />
    <id>tag:www.insidesocal.com,2009:/mom//286.147577</id>

    <published>2009-10-27T15:24:46Z</published>
    <updated>2009-10-27T15:25:29Z</updated>

    <summary><![CDATA[Don't say it's just gas. &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; She smiled. &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Not at me, but she smiled, a quick, sweet upturn of her mouth, bow-shaped little lips slightly open, lifting her chubby cheeks every so slightly, streaked with milky drool. &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Baby...]]></summary>
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        <name>Anissa</name>
        
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        <![CDATA[Don't say
it's just gas.

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>She smiled.</p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Not at me,
but she smiled, a quick, sweet upturn of her mouth, bow-shaped little lips
slightly open, lifting her chubby cheeks every so slightly, streaked with milky drool.<br /></p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Baby No. 3
is only six weeks old, but I swear she smiled at her Papa 21 days after her
birth day. She had just been fed (by me) and changed (by me), when I handed her
over to <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1256657066_0">Hubby</span> so I could wash my hands. Hubby had just launched into his
patented up-down-bouncy-dance-of-sleep when I looked over and saw it.</p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>She was
looking up at him adoringly with her wide, almond-shaped eyes as he spoke in
singsong to her. Then she smiled, the look filling her face, her two hands
clasped under her chin. </p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Hubby and I
saw it. And though I didn't run to get the baby book so I could document the
milestone like I did with Firstborn Son, we remember. (Hubby reminds me both
boys smiled at him first, too.)</p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Now Baby
smiles with increasing regularity (but never slow enough so I can catch it with
the camera.) She does it most after a feeding, when she's just drifting off to
sleep. She'll turn her head to one side, eyes drooping, eyes fluttering open,
then closing again, then opening <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1256657066_1">one more time</span> before she sinks slowly into sleep,
usually with one hand curled ladylike beside her cheek.</p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>The smile
comes soon after that, like a door's been opened in her sleep and she's happy
to enter it. Who's greeting her at the threshold? I always wonder. Sometimes,
the smile is followed by a golden giggle, a sound so sweet I want to play it
over and over should I ever get the chance to record it. What's so funny? Could
I get in on the secret?</p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>You can
read all about baby smiles during these earliest days being nothing more than an
inborn behavior, just a reflex, or (you've heard this one before), "just gas."
We're told babies don't really smile at you until they're at least two months
old, if then.</p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Never mind
all that.</p> ]]>
        <![CDATA[<span style=""> </span>I like to
think, when my daughter smiles her smile in her sleep, and it lingers on her
face, that she's meeting up with my Dad "out there," some magic place where
spirits drop in for visits or "where the sidewalk ends," as <span style="border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(0, 102, 204); background: transparent none repeat scroll 0% 0%; cursor: pointer; -moz-background-clip: border; -moz-background-origin: padding; -moz-background-inline-policy: continuous;" class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1256657066_2">Shel Silverstein</span>
would say.

<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">Dad never got to meet any of my
children, not Firstborn Son, who has the same stubborn curl in his hair as his grandfather;
or <span style="border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(0, 102, 204); cursor: pointer;" class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1256657066_3">Wonder Boy</span>, the four-year-old who inherited his grandfather's lethal charm;
and certainly not this granddaughter of his, his youngest grandchild, to whom he gave the same oval face
shape I don't have. (I am moon-faced, or, as I see it, have a face shaped like
a bao bun.)</p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>I tell my
boys they were playing with angels before they were born. </p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>"I don't
remember," they'll say with all seriousness.</p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>And I used
to think my babies rejoined their heavenly playmates in sleep, when they
smiled. But these days I like it better to imagine they're getting acquainted with
their Grandpa Aning, that he's singing them Neil Diamond songs and telling them
stories, that he's marveling along with me about how perfect they are, how
amazing, that he's wishing them all the good things I want for them too.<br /></p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Baby
finally smiled at me yesterday (after, I should note, she bestowed the honor on
two of my sisters.) She was awake, and I had just saved her from a double-sided
kissfest courtesy of her older brothers.</p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>But I think
I still like her sleep smiles best. </p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">"Whose playing with you, baby?" I
ask as she drifts off.<br /></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">That's when I hold her close, bring
her face up next to mine, and whisper, "Say hi to Grandpa for me."</p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></p>

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<entry>
    <title>Who are these kids and why are they calling me Mommy?</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.insidesocal.com/mom/2009/09/who-are-these-kids-and-why-are.html" />
    <id>tag:www.insidesocal.com,2009:/mom//286.143186</id>

    <published>2009-09-16T16:55:58Z</published>
    <updated>2009-09-16T17:12:41Z</updated>

    <summary>My sister says the hardest part about being a fivesome is getting a quick table at any restaurant. Four is doable, five...well, you gotta wait. I say, we&apos;re not even THINKING of going out of the house for a month...</summary>
    <author>
        <name>Anissa</name>
        
    </author>
    
        <category term="Raising Cali kids" scheme="http://www.sixapart.com/ns/types#category" />
    
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        <![CDATA[My sister says the hardest part about being a fivesome is getting a quick table at any restaurant. Four is doable, five...well, you gotta wait. I say, we're not even THINKING of going out of the house for a month or two! Just please let me pack them all safely in the car for a trip to the grocery! Or even better, Hubby can watch all three while I pop into Ralphs for a quiet trip down the aisles!<br /><br />But we've settled in as a fivesome nicely, methinks, two weeks into this new gig. Baby is sleeping RELATIVELY well, except for one night this week when she woke up at 2 a.m., and 3 a.m., then 4 a.m. and 5 a.m. She sleeps for three hour stretches and isn't much of a crier. She stops wailing as soon as anyone picks her up.<br /><br />The boys ADORE her. They kiss her so much we have to ask them to stop. Wonder Boy wants to help with everything: fetching diapers, turning on her crib mobile, wiping her drool. Firstborn reports on her every achievement to anyone who will listen.<br /><br />I am doing much better after the C-section, able at last to get up and down the stairs but still on pain medication. My brother-in-law reminded me yesterday not to drive if I'm on meds even if I'm not drowsy or sleepy as it can be considered drunk driving. Didn't think of that AT ALL! I will have to stop taking the meds then if I have to get behind the wheel, hmm?<br /> ]]>
        <![CDATA[I think the biggest difference between Baby No. 1 and No. 3 is we, Hubby and I, are much more relaxed about the whole thing: we're not second guessing ourselves about every little thing. Alcohol on the umbilical cord? Should we use baby wipes or just wet cotton balls for the first month? I remember the anxiety that gripped us when our pediatrician said, "Take the mittens off! He needs the stimulation!" Parental guilt deluxe!<br /><br />Now we know we won't do everything perfectly, but we'll all be OK anyway.<br /><br />Remember the Simpsons episode when Homer finds out he's about to become a father of three? He had to quit his dream job at a bowling alley and beg for his old job at the nuclear plant back. Mr. Burns placed a large
plaque in front of Homer's desk reading: "Don't forget: you're here
forever."<br /><br />But Homer changes this to read "Do it for her," by placing all of Maggie's baby pictures around the plaque.<br /><br />Well, here's who we're doing all this for: our kiddos, Firstborn Son, Wonder Boy and hmmm, gotta come up with a nickname for No. 3!<br /><br /><span class="mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image" style="display: inline;"><a href="http://www.insidesocal.com/mom/OurThreeKids.JPG"><img alt="OurThreeKids.JPG" src="http://www.insidesocal.com/mom/assets_c/2009/09/OurThreeKids-thumb-400x600-32125.jpg" class="mt-image-center" style="margin: 0pt auto 20px; text-align: center; display: block;" height="600" width="400" /></a></span><br /><br /><br /><br /><div><br /></div>]]>
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</entry>

<entry>
    <title>The fruit of MY labor</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.insidesocal.com/mom/2009/09/the-fruit-of-my-labor.html" />
    <id>tag:www.insidesocal.com,2009:/mom//286.143184</id>

    <published>2009-09-16T16:51:53Z</published>
    <updated>2009-09-16T16:55:47Z</updated>

    <summary>This is the way it was supposed to happen: after I had washed and put away all the pretty pink things for Baby No. 3, tidied up the house best I could, prepared the boys for their first day of...</summary>
    <author>
        <name>Anissa</name>
        
    </author>
    
        <category term="Raising Cali kids" scheme="http://www.sixapart.com/ns/types#category" />
    
    <category term="babyalicia" label="baby Alicia" scheme="http://www.sixapart.com/ns/types#tag" />
    
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        <![CDATA[<span class="mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image" style="display: inline;"><a href="http://www.insidesocal.com/mom/AliciaSolo.JPG"><img alt="AliciaSolo.JPG" src="http://www.insidesocal.com/mom/assets_c/2009/09/AliciaSolo-thumb-400x266-32123.jpg" class="mt-image-center" style="margin: 0pt auto 20px; text-align: center; display: block;" height="266" width="400" /></a></span><br /><br />This is the
way it was supposed to happen: after I had washed and put away all the pretty
pink things for Baby No. 3, tidied up the house best I could, prepared the boys
for their first day of school, and stocked up on frozen dinners, I would go
into labor, traipse into the hospital and give birth. 

<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">Both sides of the family would then
go into Baby Mode, one aunt taking time off from work to stay with boys while
<span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1253120003_0">Hubby</span> and I were in the hospital, another taking over while everyone else took
turns visiting us at the hospital where I would make them sign a proclamation
that our baby was the <span style="border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(0, 102, 204); cursor: pointer;" class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1253120003_1">cutest baby</span> in the whole world.</p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>By the time
my due date came and went, and I was still pregnant, I had a feeling this
pregnancy was going to throw me for a loop. And how.</p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span><br /></p><div><br /></div>]]>
        <![CDATA[<span style=""> </span>I had my
last doctor's visit on Monday, Aug. 31, and I was advised to go into the
hospital that night.


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>"I don't
want to leave her in there even just one more day," my doctor said, listing the
reasons post-term babies often suffer complications. "Let's induce you."</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>She graciously
allowed me time to make arrangements for the boys (and I squeezed in a last
minute trip to Target to boot) before Hubby and I drove to Huntington Memorial
in Pasadena, confident that we'd done this twice before, excited to meet our
little girl.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>"We'll be
back in two days," I promised the boys.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>I'd been
induced before, so I knew the drill: check in, have an IV put in, and follow
that up with increasing amounts of Pitocin, a drug used to induce labor and
help it along. Don't forget to ask for your epidural in plenty of time, then
just sit back and get <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1253120003_2">ready to have a baby</span>. I had a book and some magazines on
hand and Hubby rejoiced that he had WiFi in the labor and delivery room (the
better to update his <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1253120003_3">Facebook</span> page.)</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>I got my
epidural that night, which lasted me well into the morning. I praised the magic
elements of the epidural and waited for the next act.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>"You're in
a very nice labor pattern," my doctor complimented me, and although I'm sure I
had nothing to do with this, I accepted the praise.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Then
everything went wrong: my contractions started getting stronger so I asked for
the blessed anesthesiologist to top off my medication. But before it could take
effect, my contractions came sharply in mighty peaks, leaving me little time to
rest in between.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>"Somethings's
wrong," I hissed to Hubby, as I hung on to the <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1253120003_4">bed rails</span> and tried to ride out
the pain.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>My doctor
agreed. The contractions not only became too powerful, they also didn't pause.
Each contraction panicked me and sent Baby's heartbeat plummeting. As I writhed
in bed, saying, "Ow-ow-ow-ow-ow," it seemed the room suddenly filled with
hospital staff, moving quickly, accompanied by beeping alarms.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>My doctor
turned to Hubby and said, "We need to do an emergency C-section. Now."</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>He and I had
time to exchange one stunned look before I was wheeled away.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>I remember
asking why (aside from the baby's distress, doctors were also afraid my
placenta was separating from my uterus before our baby.) I remember looking up
at the <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1253120003_5">operating room</span> lights and thinking, "This is just like the movies," then
bursting into tears at the thought that the doctors won't be able to rescue my
baby in time. That was the worse.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">I arrived at the operating room at
11:03 p.m. Our baby, <span style="background: transparent none repeat scroll 0% 0%; cursor: pointer; -moz-background-clip: border; -moz-background-origin: padding; -moz-background-inline-policy: continuous;" class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1253120003_6">Alicia Rivera</span>, all 7 lbs. 3 oz. of her, was born five
minutes later. </p>


<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">As I write this, my little girl is
sleeping in her hospital bassinet, looking for all the world like a pink-faced <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1253120003_7">pea
in a pod</span>. She has her older brother's lips, my ears and her daddy's cheeks. She
is fine.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>It wasn't
at all the birth story I had planned to tell, but the ending is what matters
most. And how was YOUR Labor Day weekend?<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"><br /></p>
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<entry>
    <title>Smokeout</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.insidesocal.com/mom/2009/08/smokeout.html" />
    <id>tag:www.insidesocal.com,2009:/mom//286.140837</id>

    <published>2009-08-26T16:51:40Z</published>
    <updated>2009-08-26T16:56:20Z</updated>

    <summary>Are you staying in the Valley today if you had a choice?My neighbors and his boys are staying in but we&apos;ve evacuated to my in-laws for today at least. The smoke was just too much for me. I felt sorry...</summary>
    <author>
        <name>Anissa</name>
        
    </author>
    
        <category term="Mixed Bag" scheme="http://www.sixapart.com/ns/types#category" />
    
    
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        <![CDATA[Are you staying in the Valley today if you had a choice?<br /><br />My neighbors and his boys are staying in but we've evacuated to my in-laws for today at least. The smoke was just too much for me. I felt sorry for anyone out in the smoky streets this morning, but of course everyone has to go about their business: waiting for the bus, walking their dog.<br /><br />Hubby opened the windows last night when the skies were still clear, but by midnight, smoke was wafting around the house already. It only got worse as the morning approached so we packed up the kiddos and headed due south. I would not have been able to stand the smoke for the whole day and I worry about the boys breathing that for such a long time too. So now we're raiding Grandma's fridge, enjoying the AC and hunkering down, hoping to get a call from our neighbor with the all clear signal.<br /><br />How about you?<br /><br />Breathe easy,<br /> ]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>Are you going to watch?</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.insidesocal.com/mom/2009/08/are-you-going-to-watch.html" />
    <id>tag:www.insidesocal.com,2009:/mom//286.140016</id>

    <published>2009-08-18T19:00:01Z</published>
    <updated>2009-08-17T23:08:47Z</updated>

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complications and financial burdens of this single mother of 14 ... including
the private moments and reactions of Suleman's family, as well as Suleman's own
feelings, doubts and fears." <br /><br />That's how Fox is teasing its special on Octomom Nadya Suleman, set to air on primetime tomorrow, Aug. 19.<br /><br />Will the promise of never before seen footage, etc. make us miss our guilty pleasure, Wipeout? (Oh, we LOVE that show!)<br /></span> ]]>
        <![CDATA[Uh, nope.<br /><br />Not liking the title much either: "Octomom: The Incredible Unseen Footage." Makes me think of "When Animals Attack" or "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant" (really!)<br /><br />But mostly it's because of my lack of sympathy for Suleman herself. I wish all her children the best future and the happiest lives possible, but will I spend two hours of my life watching their mother, <span id="RDS_article">who has been using student
loans and Social Security disability payments to help pay for her
children's care, muse about her choices? <br /><br />At least here's hoping the state will make sure the children get paid for this show and another planned by a European company and that their mother acts responsibly about their earnings.<br /><br />As for us, we'll be watching the hilarious John and John on Wipeout.<br /><br />Will YOU be watching?<br /><br /><br /></span>]]>
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<entry>
    <title>Swearing it off</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.insidesocal.com/mom/2009/08/swearing-it-off.html" />
    <id>tag:www.insidesocal.com,2009:/mom//286.138961</id>

    <published>2009-08-07T05:23:38Z</published>
    <updated>2009-08-05T05:25:37Z</updated>

    <summary><![CDATA[The endless amazement parents have for the kids usually entails how different one is from the other. &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Firstborn Son has a genuine horror for "bad" words while his younger brother enjoys tweaking them just enough not to get in...]]></summary>
    <author>
        <name>Anissa</name>
        
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        <category term="Raising Cali kids" scheme="http://www.sixapart.com/ns/types#category" />
    
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        <![CDATA[The endless
amazement parents have for the kids usually entails how different one is from
the other.

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Firstborn
Son has a genuine horror for "bad" words while his younger brother enjoys
tweaking them just enough not to get in trouble.</p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>At our
house, aside from the usual repertoire of unmentionable swear words, we forbid
saying "stupid," "shut up," "hate" and OMG, substituting "silly," "be quiet"
"don't like" and "oh my gosh" instead.</p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <br /></span></p> ]]>
        <![CDATA[<span style=""> </span>S-T-U-P-I-D
is hard to miss, even <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1249449804_0">Disney Channel kids</span> say it, and it's in many otherwise
excellent books, but I've always felt it's mean-spirited. I can easily see the
slippery slope when the boys call not only ideas or movies or commercials as
stupid, but also each other. No thanks. "Silly" is our substitute of choice,
followed by "ridiculous," which sounds really cute coming from a four-year-old.


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>"Shut up"
is something my own parents forbade us to say. We always just said, "Be quiet,"
and even though Firstborn Son screams it at his brother sometimes, I prefer
that. Television again is the worst culprit here, since the boys hear everyone
from <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1249449804_1">Spongebob Squarepants</span> to parents in sitcoms say it.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>"Hate" made
it to my list because I think it's too strong a word for my kids to use. Do
they really, really hate the broccoli on their plate, or the fact that they
have to take a bath? This ban results in Firstborn Son scrunching his eyebrows
together and saying through gritted teeth, "I really, really, really don't like
my little brother," when said sibling has punched him in the stomach.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>When the
boys hear their friends use these "bad" words, I explain every family may have
variations on swear words. One of our friends allows her children to say, "Oh
my God," but not "Oh my gosh."</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>"Jenny's
taking God's name in vain," Firstborn Son said in a shocked whisper one time. I
shushed him and explained it wasn't our place to correct her.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>"Say I love
you God quietly, instead," I said.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>When he was
in daycare, Firstborn Son had a cherubic classmate named Rebecca with sprightly
blonde curls, wide blue eyes and cheeks as pink as strawberries. This was the
same Rebecca who took it upon herself to teach her 3-year-old buddies the finer
forms of cuss words, coming up with a new one each week.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>"You might
hear Joseph say (insert "f' word here) this week," Ms.Dana would report with a
sigh. "Rebecca's been saying it all day."</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Coming up
short of words to express our anger or frustration is common, mine happens most
often while driving, when the boys have heard me call many a driver "loser"
with angry gusto. But I have to keep at it at that name-calling and profanity
isn't acceptable, that they are smart enough to think of more <span style="border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(0, 102, 204); cursor: pointer;" class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1249449804_2">polite words</span>, and
that certain words have power to hurt people's feelings.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>We haven't
had much of a problem with the boys using profanity so far, although <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1249449804_3">Wonder Boy</span>
has earned a time out for saying he hates his brother.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>"I wish he
was out of our family," he added for good measure.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>The other
day, my 7-year-old asked me sweetly if I wanted to see him do the nutcracker.</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>"Oh wow,
he's appreciating the classics," I thought, thinking back to all the times we
watched his cousin Hannah perform in the holiday ballet. "OK, let me see,
honey."</p>


<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>And down
Joseph goes straddling the middle of side-by-side slides. Oh, <i style="">that</i> nutcracker. There's a new word to
explain.</p>


<span style="">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>What are
the few choice words at your house?]]>
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    <title>Donut Man, where art thou?</title>
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    <published>2009-08-05T20:40:19Z</published>
    <updated>2009-08-05T20:48:07Z</updated>

    <summary><![CDATA[OK, I am having a major&nbsp; hankering for Donut Man donuts. I hear the peach season is in full swing. The last time we were there (for the humongous strawberry-filled donuts you have to eat with a spoon!), Donut Man...]]></summary>
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        <name>Anissa</name>
        
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        <![CDATA[OK, I am having a major&nbsp; hankering for Donut Man donuts. I hear the peach season is in full swing. The last time we were there (for the humongous strawberry-filled donuts you have to eat with a spoon!), Donut Man himself, Jim Nakano, told me to make sure to come back in July for peach donuts. (AND I got a free, freshly made cinnamon bun too. Must have been the pregnant belly!)<br /><br />But since I have been a little busy baking something up myself, I haven't returned...until today, when a full-fledged pregnancy craving erupted in my brain. Hubby's going to have to drive over there for some peach heaven tonight!<br /><br />Donut Man is at 915 E. Route 66 in Glendora. Keep an eye out for the sign since it's easy to miss. But boy, is anything from there always worth it! The specialty donuts are $2.60 each.<br /><br />Ahhhh, I say, salivating ala Homer....DOUGHNUTS!<br /><br /><br /> ]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>Precious cargo</title>
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    <published>2009-08-05T05:13:58Z</published>
    <updated>2009-08-05T05:22:46Z</updated>

    <summary>That&apos;s what my Dad always used to say to anyone driving us to anywhere. He would watch as the driver would back up, raise a palm to stop him, lean in, and say, &quot;Be careful. Remember you&apos;re carrying precious cargo.&quot;He...</summary>
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        <![CDATA[That's what my Dad always used to say to anyone driving us to anywhere. He would watch as the driver would back up, raise a palm to stop him, lean in, and say, "Be careful. Remember you're carrying precious cargo."<br /><br />He would say it even if only one of his six daughters was in the car, or all of us. Mom would remind drivers of that too.<br /><br />So it begs reason why a 36-year-old mom would have 10 drinks and smoke marijuana before attempting a 100-plus mile drive from an upstate New York campsite to her home. She had five children in the minivan with her. Four of the little ones, including the driver's own 2-year-old, were killed when she drove the wrong way on a parkway north of New York City.<br /><br />Read the full story <a href="http://www.cnn.com/2009/US/08/04/new.york.fatal.crash/index.html?iref=mpstoryview">here</a>.<br /><br />It's sad to read her husband say he didn't notice anything wrong with her before they parted, or her relatives insist the children were always her first priority. What happened then? Why did she make the choice she made?<br /><br />I don't drive with my glasses on because I feel I lose too much peripheral vision and I like to joke if I could tie mattresses on all sides of the car, but especially where the kiddos sit, I would.<br /><br />Because it takes one time and one wrong choice to lose it all. Precious cargo. <br /><br /> ]]>
        
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