I don't care how good he looks in a towel on "Grey's Anatomy," Eric "Dr. McSteamy" Dane is rather clueless when it comes to the reality of the same-gender marriage debate which continues to rage in our country. Dane, co-star of the upcoming A&E movie "Wedding Wars," gave an interview to Instinct magazine, parts of which have left me incredulous.
In the movie, he plays a speechwriter set to marry the daughter of a politically conservative Republican governor who is against gay marriage. His brother (played by John Stamos) is a gay wedding planner who goes on strike in protest to his brother's future father-in-law's political stance. "Ben's a politician," Dane explains. "What's more, he's protecting a politician as his campaign manager. He's taking polls and listening to polls, and he's gonna take the position of what the state says regardless of how Ben feels personally. I think that at the core, Ben thinks there's nothing wrong with gay marriage."

Q. So how will Middle America react to the movie's premise?
A. "Well, I think simply...this is a good film. This is ot a "gay" film. It's a romantic comedy that happens to have a gay guy in it and some gay themes. They've done a real good job about being really subtle with what could be a heavy-handed issue."

Q. Do you think this movie will change minds?
A. "I don't think people should come away from this film thinking, 'I have a new perspective on gay marriage' because I think you want to shy away from that to the point where there doesn't need to be any thought going on about it. I don't want people coming away from this movie thinking anything other than, 'I just thought saw a good movie, because [gay marriage] should be something that's so accepted that it doesn't even cross your mind as something you would need to recognize."

Uh OK. Well McSteamy, we live in the REAL WORLD and in the real world, 49 states in the U.S. do not allow gay people to get married and there are plenty of people out there who want to keep it that way. We are in the trenches right now fighting for that civil right.

Your co-star, the thoughtful and informed John Stamos recognizes "Wedding Wars" as an opportunity to perhaps get Middle America to watch and maybe learn, maybe open up their kinds a bit. “[It’s] a light, frothy romantic comedy with, obviously, an important message,� Stamos told the show "Extra" this week which was the first to show him the new issue of The Advocate, with John as the cover boy promoting the movie with the headline "Would You Take This Man?�

“I don't care what anybody says,� Stamos says. “It was funny; I got a call today from someone who said that there was a big debate in some hair salon because I was on the cover. They said, ‘Exactly, we knew he was gay. Isn't he gay?’ The girls were saying, ‘No, he's not gay!’ I'm proud to be on it.�

John’s cover boy issue of The Advocate is on newsstands and “Wedding Wars� premieres Dec. 11 on A&E.