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Beyond heartbreak

Lily Burk, the 17-year-old Oakwood student who was found slain late last week in downtown Los Angeles, was the daughter of a longtime friend, Greg Burk, the former chief of the copy desk at the LA Weekly, and his wife, Deborah Drooz.

I didn't know Lily. But I have an 18-year-old daughter. The very idea of losing such as her has put me and my friends who are talking about it this morning in a place beyond heartbreak.

One friend, Martin Kelley, father of two daughters himself, said that he sat down at his piano and played a song of Greg's he'd once learned -- Greg was the leader in the 1970s and '80s of the absolutely extraordinary L.A. punk band Dred Scott -- because playing a song was all he could do. The song, I think, was "Wouldn't You Be Amazed."There is nothing else we can do, except to send our love out to Greg and Deborah.

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Beyond heartbreak is right. Poor baby. My heart goes out to her parents.

'wouldn't you be amazed' was a great tune of greg's. lily was a great kid and becoming greater evey time i saw her.

My heart goes out to all those affected by this senseless tragedy, including every parent self included w/children my daughter lived in a loft on 5th and spring and we are happy she has moved.

beyond belief...how effing tragic! Our darling children!

How terrible! Words cannot describe this awful maniac. I am glad they caught and should be on death row.
My heart goes out to her parents. God bless them and comfort them.

My thoughts and prayers go out to the parents of the lovely young woman, Lily, whose life was taken. I cannot imagine how much pain they are going through at this moment, and I wish them all peace.

May God Bless you and your family. I CAN NOT IMAGINE YOUR PAIN, BUT I FEEL IT.
THERE ARE NO WORDS...JUST HEART FELT WISHES.
BETSY RATHE

As a parent, my heart aches for for the loss and grief Lily's parents must feel.

And as a parent, I'm angered that their irresponsible upbringing of this child may have bred in her a naïveté that got her killed. I read Lily worked at a homeless shelter handing out condoms, lubricants, needles and other “safety supplies”. Mom did pro bono work fighting evictions and other “quality of life” issues for skid row denizens.

This poor, foolish, misled girl probably believed this transient just need a little help and understanding, and wouldn’t harm her if she was kind and supportive. I suspect she still believed that when she calmly called her mom and dad seeking money.

Parents – tell your children there are BAD people in the world that no amount of kindness will reform. If you or your kids want to help, offer to call someone – from a safe distance.

God bless these parents and comfort them.

God bless and comfort Deborah Drooz and Greg Burke. Our prayers are with you during this time.

Betsy, that was an unnecessarily harsh and unfair comment. There will be plenty of time for assessing "blame" for Lily's death. This is not, however, the time or place. Her parents did not "kill" Lily, a man did; Lily's parents are not responsible for her death. To Lily's parents, please be assured that in these darks times that we live in, you raised a child who apparently brought light into many peoples' lives and who was taken too soon from this world. Please ignore the haters; we mourn with you as if Lily was our own child.

Like many who will read and write something regarding this tragedy, I have nothing personally tied to this story, but it has hit me so hard that I can not stop thinking about (and replaying) what events had to have happened. I live about 30 miles from where this happened and I frequent the area often.

I am so sorry for all the pain and confusion that arises from this; no parent should have to endure such a nightmare.

The pictures they put up of Lily really do hit hard just how loved she must have been. If photos never lie, then it is easy to see how bright a star Lily absolutely was. A beautiful, talented, intelligent, well-loved & respected young woman with her whole life ahead of her.

I will mourn her as though she were my friend because her life was brought to a close too soon, and the deep impact of truly "stepping into another person's shoes" can really open up a person to experience the horror she must have gone through.

To the family and friends of Lily, please just know that there are probably thousands of us out there whose hearts have made room for Lily, and her inspiration for life will be taken up by those of us who wish to carry her bright star.

Even in passing, she has impacted so many lives.

Deborah O' Neill, I agree with you that the comment was somewhat harsh, and that this really wasn't the place, BUT, BUT, I woudn't just discount what Ms.Rathe wrote. She is making a point. If you have a philosophy that is not based in reality, then you are not living in reality and are often, going to get punished by reality. Allowing police Chief Bratton and the LAPD to have thier hands tied, is basically not living in reality. I felt down all day also, when I heard about this and saw this girls picture. Enough said.

If I had not met Lily I couldn't have believed all the loverly things written about her. But she was truly a gift to this world and I was waiting to see what she would do with her talents.

I have 5 children and I worry every minute about the monsters in this world that have no regard for the sacredness of someones life. Our children must live in this world and deal with these monsters and there is nothing we can do but warn them of the dangers out there. Bad things happen to good people. Some how this horrible tragedy will help us change laws that will protect our children in the future. In the meantime all we can do is hope and pray this never happens again. My thoughts and prayers are with Lily's parents and sad to say that will never be the same.

I have 5 children and I worry every minute about the monsters in this world that have no regard for the sacredness of someones life. Our children must live in this world and deal with these monsters and there is nothing we can do but warn them of the dangers out there. Bad things happen to good people. Some how this horrible tragedy will help us change laws that will protect our children in the future. In the meantime all we can do is hope and pray this never happens again. My thoughts and prayers are with Lily's parents and sad to say that will never be the same.

I have 5 children and I worry every minute about the monsters in this world that have no regard for the sacredness of someones life. Our children must live in this world and deal with these monsters and there is nothing we can do but warn them of the dangers out there. Bad things happen to good people. Some how this horrible tragedy will help us change laws that will protect our children in the future. In the meantime all we can do is hope and pray this never happens again. My thoughts and prayers are with Lily's parents and sad to say that will never be the same.

betsy, on behalf of her family, i must beg you to hold your tongue. hold your tongue. hold your tongue and be grateful your children are safe.

The Burk family should be inquiring as to exactly what their daughter did to anger the man to the point that he wanted to kill her.

She must have really angered him.

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