Below is a story that ran in today's paper. This version has about 100 additional words at the end, as the print version had to be tightened for space.
RIALTO — Five years is more than just a number to Sherrie
Lovell.
It’s measured in stretches of anguished absence from her boys, in the
changes to their faces, their bodies, their personalities. They have
grown into men and warriors, husbands and fathers, all while serving
in the military in wartime, a wartime that seems interminable.
For Lovell, five years is an era.
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“You have to believe in their mission,” said Lovell, a 49-year-old
who will soon become a grandmother for the second time since her
country invaded Iraq in 2003. “But at the same time you wonder how
many more years we can do this. It’s sad. It’s been too long.”
On the five-year anniversary of war in Iraq, Lovell’s small and
tight-knit family is part of the nation’s so-called 1 percent, a
sliver of America’s 300 million whose lives have been more or less
consumed with war for longer than America’s involvement in World War
II.
Her biological son, her stepson and her son-in-law have served in the
war theater at various points over the last five years. They have
aged and changed, mostly on the other side of the globe. Her daughter
is pregnant with Lovell’s second grandchild.
Today’s tableau is a striking change from the 1960’s and 1970’s
of Lovell’s youth, when protests against the Vietnam War often
included blistering attacks on the troops themselves.
Lovell said she remembers the acidic passion of that period, and is
always mindful of keeping her ambivalence about the war separate from
her support of the troops, of her troops.
It’s a tightrope she’s toed for five years.
“I didn’t think we needed to be in Iraq in the very beginning,”
Lovell said. “But at the same time, I back each and every one of them
in what they’re doing there.”
Five years ago, her son Shawn Hanley was a wiry
22-year-old. Today, he’s a strapping 6-foot-2-inch Navy veteran of
two combat tours, one-year stretches in both Afghanistan and Iraq.
Spending most of his 20s working for a nation at war has left little
time for the things most 27-year-olds do, his mother said, but he has
managed to get engaged to a local woman.
"He was home from a tour in Iraq and he met her when he went
out to get car insurance,” Lovell remembers. “He proposed right
before he was redeployed to Afghanistan ... they use a lot of Myspace
to keep in touch while they are apart."
Five years ago, stepson James Patterson was a
wispy 23-year-old. He hasn’t grown physically, but the Army weapons
expert who trains Iraqi soldiers has aged emotionally after three
1-year combat tours.
Patterson is now married to an army medic, the union born in the
throes of war.
“He’s been shot at many times,” Lovell said. “I tease him that being
so skinny has helped. But like Shawn, he’s different now when he
comes home. Both of them are more quiet, older.”
Five years ago, Anthony White was a smart-alecky
19-year-old from Sacramento looking to join the Navy. Now, after two
year-long tours in Iraq, White is a father. His wife, Lovell’s
daughter Jamie White, is pregnant again and due in June.
But he hasn’t been there for much of his son Kayden’s 18-month-old
life. He didn’t see Kayden’s first steps, didn’t hear his first
words, and couldn’t attend the boy’s first birthday.
War does that to young fathers.
“When daddy comes home, Kayden doesn’t recognize him,” Lovell said.
“At least not at first. When you come home and your child doesn’t
hardly know you, that’s hard on him.”
At her Rialto home, surrounded by mementos and photos of war and
family, Lovell confronted the elephant in the rooms of all military
families: Tragedy.
She cracked a folder containing documents to pass on assets in the
event of a combat death.
“Shawn said if anything happens, here’s this book,” Lovell said. “I
pray that nothing happens.”




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