Manling probably never admitted why she killed her sons. I think she killed both her sons because they witnessed her murdering their father. Out of fear of being caught she smothered her first son while the other watched in horror, then the second. I believe the father was attacked in his sleep which explains her crying out to their neighbors around 7:30am in the morning. I hope she rotts in hell for what she did.

So sad that the price of her love and sacrifice foe her family is just beyond pay. One's love & sacrifice is just not enough...but how many people would admit that they need God for everything in life?
And sometimes we just look at people and not believing/accepting that we need God.
God bless them all.

It's just ridiculous how friends of a vicious murderer can just defend their friends only. Like I said on the other comments. What did the 2 children have to do with their relationship??? Sympathy Girl if I knew who you were and I was a police officer. I would keep an eye out for you. Friends of murderers are probably murderers themselves.

I find all of the killers friends one sided. I wouldn't be surprised to see all of manlings friends busted. I'M STARTING TO THINK THAT ALL OF HER FRIENDS PROBABLY KNEW OF HER PLOT TO MURDER HER WHOLE FAMILY. Please Identify yourselves so we can have the police put all of you through a series of polygraph tests. She probably didn't have the courage to commit such a gruelsome act. It must be her friends or even her family encouraging her to do it.

Were you trying to say that we as Manling's friends're encouraging her to kill Neal, Devon and Ian?
You accused us then where's your evidence?
Where's that idea came from? What're you thinking about????

I knew Manny back in high school, and we have seen each other around the city and talked recently. I know that as a mother it is unspeakable what she has done, but this will have to be something that she will have to live with the rest of her life, knowing what she did. That being said I don't believe that it is fair or even right that the friends of Manny should be put on trial because they are all trying to cope with what has happened. Remember they are now having to look at their friend through new eyes, and deal with the loss of neal and the boys. Although I was not really close with her, it is hard for me to understand why she felt the need to do what she did, and we may never know. I think that instead of focusing oner how her friends are handling this, we should be instead focused on remembering the boys and Neal.

I knew Manling and Neal about 7 years ago. Though we might not be very close, but enough time for me to know the family: Neal, Devon, Ian and Maning.

First, neither Neal nor Manling are bad person. Devon was a very very nice boy. I did not have time to know Ian as he was too young.

Neal had been working for Disney for years. Although with good benefits, the income and future was not bright enough. As a father of two, he still took the step to try to do something new – becoming a Primerica agent. To do this I found he studied very hard and able to get one license after another in a short time. Manling, a person with easy-going and bright personality, had started working together to bring leads to Neal. She went to malls, gas stations to talk to people she met, basically “cold calling”. They approached me more than a year ago. I found no reason not to let a couple I knew, who worked hard and striving to make their lives better to take care of my insurance. And that was the last time I met them together.

Then the shocking news came. For more than a week I could not emotionally accept that Neal and two kids were gone. I believe all couple might have problems. I don’t know what had happened in last one year, but why the kids? Why? It makes no sense at all after all the efforts and sacrifices they had done. It makes no sense. I just hope God can bless their souls.

To John Jacobs:

I understand that no matter what happened, a person killed her own family including two young children cannot be forgiven.

But from several postings you posted. I found you anger is beyond normal. You had accused a group of people you don’t know plotting a tragic murder and further accused them murderers. You have asked them to identify themselves. So you can do what?

Do you know the victims? Have you ever wonder why the first three victims this killer did were her immediate family? If we want to make our society better, having a cool and rational mind is very important. Wouldn't you say so?

I am lings friend and what people are writting in this page is just non sence i have talked to the detectives as a matter of fact and yes she and i went out the night before the murders happend and she seemed quite normal to me how could guys say SHE DID IT if you did not even know her she would give her life for her children not take it awy from them i knew the boys and still its hard to belive that they are gone why dont you think in what if?? what if he murdered the children and she out of rage killed him just think about the what if s

No one who knew Neal could ever think he would harm his boys. I am sorry you feel compelled to try to blame the victim to make sense of a senseless act. It isn't going to help. And until the actual evidence is presented in court, this is speculation. We aren't going to solve anything here. All this does is add to the burden of hurt both of the families are already dealing with. Contact me if you want to talk.

im a friend of ling and just by reading half of these comments just sickens me ling was the kind of mother take would give her life for her children not take it away from them. im sorry that i ¨turned my back torward you guys¨ but i was told not to talk to any of the press specially me her co worker at marie callenders i couldnt put my job on the line i have a child to feed as well im the friend that ling was out with the night before the murders she looked and acted normal to me i would never think of even imagine that this sort of thing could happen

None of us thought something like this could happen. Who would? And I certainly don't blame you for focusing on your own child as you struggle to cope with a traumatic experience. Not in the least. Just remember that Neal is my child. My child was murdered. Both of my grandchildren were murdered. I wake up to that every single day. The simple fact that they are gone is about as much as I am equipped to handle right now. Continued speculation when we don't have any of the evidence is like trying to put together a puzzle with half the pieces missing. I just can't cope with it any longer.

I was both of their friends I have cried endless tears for the whole family our children were Best Friends the more time that passes the more it hurts! All of us friends had NO! knowledge that this was going to happen had we knowen we would have stopped it immediatly if some friends read this im gonna have a drink to neal on his birthday at 8:00 pm join me wherever you are! Oh btw a REAL FRIEND or family member will know when that date is.

I worked with Ling years ago waitressing She did have a short temper at times. Would get a little crazy, But she loved her family must of all more .I still find it hard to belive that she did this.NO one knows what goes on in other people marriages. Money problem,drugs, alcohol & cheating can make a person feel crazy & despert. I feel deeply sorry for all of you involved. What she must be feeling now! LOVE TO BOTH FAMILYS! SORRY THIS HAPPEN TO YOUR FAMILY

I still feel shaken. I see Asian women that look like Ling and so many men look like Neal. I thought I saw Neal about 5 times last week. I keep wondering what really happened and my mind still doesn't seem to be able to process that the horror is real and not in some Crime Scene show. I think about it all of the time. I can't believe that they are gone. I think about the families, that I wasn't very close to, and half of me wishes I was so I wouldn't feel so alone in dealing with this, and the other half is glad that I was only close to Ling and Neal, because it's easier to bury it in the back of my mind. But it is always there, like a scary movie, in my mind, in the appearance of strangers, in a piece of paper from thier house, in a picture of us, in a memory of hanging out, of planning and dreaming big. I miss them. All of them. Things seem so strange, knowing what has happened. It may seem so simple and stupid to say, but I just wish it hadn't. That's an understatement of course, but I just wish it had never happened.

That isn't either simple or stupid. I wish every single day that I could go back in time and somehow fix things so they would still be here. You aren't alone. For those of us who knew and loved them, the world changed forever on August 8. It is up to us to keep them alive in our hearts.

When Neal was a teenager we always ended up standing in line to see a new movie on his birthday. So that's what I'm going to do to remember him this month - go to see the new Indiana Jones movie. Knowing Neal, he would have been first in line.

WOW,What Ling must be thinging on Mothers days!Sick,I guess! I hate to say it but she should had killed herself too. How can you Go on living.