Things H.S football players think about … This is the kid who doesn’t want to be Rudy

You can find anything from google searches, so I thought I would give you random questions from high school football players around the country. I don’t know where or when this kid wrote this, but I’m sure it applies to HS football players everywhere. If you’re a player in the Valley and have a question that you would like our bloggers to discuss, you can email me anonymously and I will post it for you. Send to….Anyway, here’s today’s question/dilema

HS player writes: I’m an incoming sophomore getting ready for summer ball, season, etc. This is my 2nd year of football, and i didn’t start as a freshmen. Coach is already favoring his starters in spring ball. When we do 7 on 7 he gets the linebackers (my position) that don’t know what to do mentally. I know everything I must do mentally, and physically, I’m real fast and pretty strong. Football isn’t fun to me at all. It’s all just hard hard work just to…well.. be someones backup. I’m not content with being a backup. (to continue click thread).

If I’m gonna work hard all summer, then I want something out of it and being a backup doesn’t get it. I’m a backup to guys who have been playing for almost 10 years. Next year there’s no way I’m starting over Seniors on varsity, and when I’m a senior, then the starters from freshmen and JV are gonna be starters as seniors.

I make movies. I’m GOOD at it too. Never EVER in my life have I been good at something like I am movies. Never. Football, no. Basketball, no. Track, no. etc etc. but in video class, I’m #1. It’s the one thing I am truly good at. I wanna pursue it, but football is year round. 24/7. all I have to think about. I wanna quit. But it’s like a gang. You can’t just leave. Plus, I don’t want my friends I made in football to think less of me, it’s just not fun anymore. I’d much rather be making movies, getting better at something i truly am good at, and will do later in life, instead of wasting 4 years on something I’m not gonna do after it’s done. You know? Please help!

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  • gralx

    Very interesting article. I went to CO (100 years ago or so, was a Lancer when I graduated) My son started playing football when we lived in the Central Valley. He was never the “best” player. But, was always in the mix, made all stars 2 years in a row. A couple of years ago we moved to Arizona, job thing. Because of the way they lay the leagues out here, size and age wise, he has played on a team where the “studs” were a year older (older lighter classification). We, by pure chance, moved into the high school district where the HS he will go to has won the big boy conference (5A division I) state championship 5 or 6 times in the last 10 years. He will be in 8th grade this year and there will be no “older lighters” on the team. So, he will have a better chance of seeing the field more this year. But, he looked me in the eye this weekend and said that he wants to keep playing football in high school, but why bother. He feels, and probably rightly so, that he will put all the time in for practice and never, ever, see the field during a game.

  • Poser

    A kid didn’t write this. Sorry, it’s just a guy feeling.

  • MidValley

    Do your best, kiss coach’s butt, and get ready for J.V. Remember you are still part of the group even if you aren’t a starter and that is pretty special.

  • Find the Passion

    In grammar school I started every game but my first two. When I didn’t even play in the first two I was devasted. When the third game came my coach said t was all or nothing. I knew what he meant, being a thick kid I didn’t want to hurt anyone so he held me back until I wanted to play more than I wanted to not hurt anyone. I hurt tons after I started and bloced out any remorse. I wasn’t a dirty player but when I hit you it was all out. When I got to high school I was somehow put to play QB. I sucked but I had size, a decent arm and could remember everyone’s assignment. Started a few games and it was a rush. My JV year I was team captain and called half the defensive calls while playing QB in emergencies. Tons of responsibility and I learned to love the game like I loved oxygen, still do. My junior year I became the starting QB when the starter broke his leg. I absolutely sucked at the position at that level, not enough arm strenght or confidence in myself, a deady combination. Besides I wanted to play safety. When I quit to force a change I thought they’d take me back and let me play defense, I was wrong. I “knew” I wasn’t the man for the job but I never let things play out. I regret that decision to this day , especially when a former team mate , a senior, told me 30 years later. “You ruined my senior year…”we” needed you!” Still floors me that he said that but maybe the he saw what the coaches saw. My senior season I tried out and thought okay I’ll play line backer or TE. Nope they punished me and I played line. Never in my life was I so out of place and over matched on the fotball field. Every day I wanted to quit, but I’d done that once so there was no way I’d watch games my senior year frm the stands. One day the team’s trainer told me the coaches were thinking of cutting me. They don’t “cut” players at my school. I cried on the way home but went back to practice the next day. Finally something ciicked after we beat a rival and everyone played but me. I still remember the coaches saying, “Well at least every one played”. That night as everyone went to parties to celebrate I made a commitment to myself to stop feeling sorry for myself and play every practice like my personal ‘Friday Night Lights”. I just thought, “How do I make up for all those years of not playing the line?” It worked and some how the Head Coach noticed. I started the last four games of the season, winning two. I played out of my mind. After games when every one went to parties I went home too exhausted to move. Our last home game I was elected Game Captain after almost being cut. I can still remember the coach telling me which was we wanted the ball if we won the toss. He said, “Are you ready?” I guess I was in a daze and then he said, “Look the team wanted you and the coaches picked you to be Captain. You deserve it, now listen…We want the ball..” I didn’t hear another thing. Finally I said, “Might want to tell the other Captain coach…just to make sure.” I was getting teary eyed and he said…”Of course…you just call it Heads, okay?” and walked off shaking his head smiling. We won that game even though we were huge underdogs.

    The moral of the story is life presents opportunities and chanllenges. The only certainty we have in life … is that life is unceratin. Take a chance, in whatver you choose to do, be it film of football. But remember one thing, in every endeavor there will be challenges and that’s what this kid appears to want to avoid at all cost…and that’s a shame.

  • D-Mo

    Sounds familiar. My son played for CO youth and high school until he was junior. He didn’t have the desire to put in the hard work that is required to stay on the team, let alone find a starting position. He missed a back to back CIF championship experience with a great group of players and coaches. Not sure if he regrets his decision or not. Time will tell.
    Anyway, my feeling is that even if you don’t have a starting position, football offers so many other blessings to young men – win or lose. If you are in a well run program, stick it out. Be a positive teammate, give it all you have. You are of more value than you think, and when you look back you will have no regrets. You were part of something bigger than yourself, and your fellow warriors will be lifelong friends.

  • Team

    Not all athletes will start for their teams; however, they all play an important role in all victories and losses. “Rudy” is a classic example. The guys who run scout team don’t always get the credit they deserve or the proverbial “bone” thrown to them in a Blow-out victory (playing time) but they are just as important to the success of a TEAM as the starters. I know it sounds like a bunch of BS, but it is very true. Take pride in being a member of your TEAM and starters should always treat their TEAM MATES (Starters and non-starters) with respect and dignity, both on and off the field. As previously stated, all warriors share the bond of blood, sweat and sacrifice during those Spring, Summers and Falls when everyone else was taking it easy and you guys were supporting eachother while lifting weights, running bleachers and wind sprints in the blazing sun or pouring rain….I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Those were some of the most memorable football moments in both High School and College. Work hard and be a part of something that will hopefully last a lifetime.

  • Kings for a life time

    On the other hand,

    Football isn’t for every one. D-Mo were those back to back Championships for you or for him? Seems we both know the answer to that one don’t we. Your son never did like football from what it seems but maybe just wanted to make you proud, apparently he failed or you wouldn’t dress him dow like that. As parents we have to temper our love of the game with our love of our children. I’ve seen parents rush to congratualte the stars before they even hug their own kids, especially after a blow out win when their own kids didn’t play. I’ve also heard parents tell me , “I know you’re trying to play everyone but…” Some times the “but” is their own kids. Crazy as that sounds it happens more ofte than I care to remember.

    I’ve always said “football is an ash ole magnet” and that will never change. Some where on every campus is a kid with out any athletic talent in the world who will soon be among the most powerful individuals in the land, lawyers, doctors, politians and scientists. Their high school experience is no more less enjoyable and enriching as the star athlets who every one wants to be for those few years. We all know them.

    Sports isn’t for every one. No shame in that. Maybe that’s why the basketball atlent in the SGV is so thin, too many games and not enough fun. Football will always be king but not all “Kings” enjoy a long reign.

  • Closer to the heart…

    King – Wow, sounds like someone grabbed a whole lotta bench in his HS football days? Sorry, I hope you are now a “King” in your own right in the land of business, politics or science.

  • Try and keep up

    Closer to the heart

    Actually I started more games than I didn’t. Was a team Captain more games than I wasn’t and enjoyed a ton of experiences on the field as a player and a coach, winning more than I lost. My point wans’t my experience but the reality that Football isn’t for every one and neither are athletics. No shame there.

    One of the best players I ever saw was Danny Lozano from Roosevelt back in 1974-75. He played MLB and earned a full ride to USC. He told me once he hated to play but love his team mates. He was hurt early in his career and continued his education in Music, his first love. Today he is a Professor at USC teahcing Music to the next generation of musicians.

    Besides in all honesty how many Al Bundy’s are there out there that were once BMOC.

  • D-Mo

    King, I didn’t mean to imply that at all – he loves the game. I had my fun. Got 1 boy with a ring already, anyway. I am merely suggesting that football can be worth the effort, even if you’re not going D1.
    BTW- I didn’t know there were female players that became coaches out there.

  • Like I said

    Magnet meet D-Mo, lol

  • Closer to the heart…

    You just sound a little bitter my man, no need to start throwing out your unverifiable list of “achievements”. It’s all good. And I would have to say that “most” kids play because they like the game, the team and sense of camaraderie they get from being a member of that particular team (even a losing one). Your professor friend, I do not believe, is the norm. Anyhow, say hi to Peg for me. Out!

  • Bitterless

    Ever heard of Julius Peppers, it’s been said “if he ever LIKED the game it would be scary”. So my Professor friend isn’t the exception to the rule as several Pros play Football rather than their first love…baseball or basketball. Look it up.

    Why does any one have to be bitter to have a difference of opinion. That’s an easy cop out.

  • COChargerfan

    This is off the subject but for the baseball fans and parents you might want to know that on 7/7/10 the NFHS adopted the BBCOR standard for composite bats effective for the 2010-2011 school year. So, as of September all the BESR bats will be illegal.

  • gee thanks

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  • Football

    Before I give my take on this topic, let me just tell you that I am not an “Al Bundy” or someone who lives in the past. As a matter of fact, I’ll be the first to tell you that I wasn’t a great football player, but the game did help mold me into a positive member of society.

    In my opinion (notice I said opinion, not stating it as fact) there is nothing as gratifying as playing the wonderful sport of football. It is the ultimate team sport. You need, not just eleven guys, but an entire squad to do their jobs in order to succeed. Playing high school football is not about who starts or who is a star. If a kid has that type of attitude then he shouldn’t even bother. HS football builds various life skills that a kid cannot learn in any other type of environment.

    I don’t care how great of a movie guy this kid is, he cannot receive the same type of lifelong learning experiences on a film set the way he can on a football field. The countless hours of conditioning, the weight room, having to depend on others and having others depend on you (teamwork), getting the snot knocked out of you and getting right back up for the next play are all aspects of playing HS football. Notice I did not say scoring a touchdown, getting your name in the paper, or being an all-star. Sure there are some kids who shine in the sport more than others, but I guarantee you there are a ton of kids who were non-starters who ended up being extremely successful people because of the life-long lessons they learned while sweating and bleeding on the gridiron.

    In short, I see nothing positive about deciding not to play football. Today too many kids (and parents) say things like “coach doesn’t like me” or “only his favorites play” or “what’s the point in putting in all this work if I don’t play. Well I can guarantee you that if coach doesn’t like you, there’s probably a reason for it. Of course he’s going to play his favorites because most likely, his favorites are the one’s who will most help the team win. And most importantly there is a point to playing if you’re not getting playing time. If you quit, you will be missing out on the time of your life. If you quit, you will be missing out on valuable lessons that can be learned nowhere else, if you quit, you will have the rest of your life to think about the “could haves,” “would haves” and “should haves.”

  • gary butts sr

    my son last year at ben davis didnt want to play football could be from a girl he meet or the acl and laterl joint repare 9 year in to football has ended just dont understand him not sure if it is the coaches to he has been look over a lot if some college just could have seen him they would have loved him player that really no him would say the same thing killer line backer power running back knock you over in special teams sombody out their help him to go back i can show you what little tapes i have he made all the power club before he be came a senior i have that to i would love for a coach to sat down and talk to him from any college it would change him or his life he dont talk much he is a person just like you and i gary butts jr he dont no i have said this just a father love