Pac-12 Roundball Roundtable Pt. 7

These are no Siskels and Eberts, but a handful of Pac-12 beat writers had the best – or worst? – view of what was one rotten men’s basketball season. Jeff Faraudo of the Oakland Tribune (Cal), Doug Haller of the Arizona Republic (Arizona State), Bill Oram of the Salt Lake Tribune (Utah), Ryan Divish of the Tacoma News Tribune (Washington) and Tom Kensler of the Denver Post (Colorado) join the Daily News’ Jon Gold for a roundtable discussion on what doomed the conference…and what it can do to fix itself.

7) What was the worst game you saw this year?

Jon Gold:: UCLA’s 66-47 demolition of USC on Jan. 15 wasajd;nfAk;Lj’akldsnflshg. Sorry, my head hit the keyboard. I fell asleep again just now thinking about it.

Jeff Faraudo: Anytime I had to watch USC.

Doug Haller: Come on. I saw USC vs Arizona State — twice. I saw Utah vs. Arizona State — twice. I’ve had nightmares about these games. Don’t make me relive them.

Bill Oram: USC 62, Utah 45. Once again, when you covered these Utes you saw a lot of bad basketball. A lot. But this was a pretty lousy performance from both teams, though I’m sure Trojans backers will take umbrage.

Ryan Divish: The worst game I saw probably Washington vs. Seattle University where there were over 50 fouls whistled and Seattle U head coach Cameron Dollar’s response to the officiating was, “Those guys were sure excited about reffing tonight.” As for conference play, the worst game I saw in person was Washington vs. USC. The Trojans were down to five scholarship players, and the Huskies seemed disinterested and sloppy.

Tom Kensler: Colorado 73, Utah 33 in Boulder. The score speaks for itself.

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Pac-12 Roundball Roundtable Pt. 6

These are no Siskels and Eberts, but a handful of Pac-12 beat writers had the best – or worst? – view of what was one rotten men’s basketball season. Jeff Faraudo of the Oakland Tribune (Cal), Doug Haller of the Arizona Republic (Arizona State), Bill Oram of the Salt Lake Tribune (Utah), Ryan Divish of the Tacoma News Tribune (Washington) and Tom Kensler of the Denver Post (Colorado) join the Daily News’ Jon Gold for a roundtable discussion on what doomed the conference…and what it can do to fix itself.

6) What was the best game you saw this year?

Jon Gold:: Maybe it was just the venue – Madison Square Garden – or the plot – Steve Lavin, sidelined by cancer, but up in the box watching against his former team and head coach Ben Howland. Or maybe it was just a good game. But St. John’s 66-63 win over the Bruins in New York City was an intriguing matchup of two different styles.

Jeff Faraudo: Cal’s 78-74 home loss to Arizona was a game played at a high level. Arizona was impressive and Cal, despite the loss, competed well. Was a great atmosphere.

Doug Haller: Oddly enough, it was the one I just covered. Arizona at Arizona State. Twenty-two lead changes. Eleven ties. No team led by more than seven points. And somehow, Arizona State won. For once, I got to write a different story.

Bill Oram: Utah 62, Washington State 60 (OT). OK, so not exactly a Final Four preview, but this was a tremendous game. Utah was coming off a 40-point loss to Colorado in Boulder, while Wazzu was still trying (as it still is) to find an identity. Good back-and-forth game that wasn’t resolved until Josh Watkins — moment of silence for Jiggy, please — made a jumper in the paint to give the Utes the final advantage. The shot was an exact copy of the one he made at the end of regulation to force overtime. For those of us around Utah it was a really cool moment. All season we’d wondered, “Will these guys win a conference game?” Here in their second attempt, days after a history loss, they did it. It was an afternoon game and I’ll never forget Larry Krystkowiak, absolutely drained, patting his son Cam on the knee, saying, “C’mon buddy, let’s go have a day off on a Saturday.”

Ryan Divish: Arizona vs. Washington at the McKale Center. Two athletic teams that made plays and played at a high level. Any time a team comes into Tucson and wins, it’s usually going to be an entertaining game.

Tom Kensler: Colorado 72, Oregon 71 in Boulder. Game appeared headed toward overtime when CU point guard Nate Tomlinson was fouled with under 2 seconds remaining as he took the ball right at Oregon’s E.J. Singler on a fastbreak. Tomlinson me the first of two foul shots for the difference.

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Pac-12 Roundball Roundtable Pt. 5

These are no Siskels and Eberts, but a handful of Pac-12 beat writers had the best – or worst? – view of what was one rotten men’s basketball season. Jeff Faraudo of the Oakland Tribune (Cal), Doug Haller of the Arizona Republic (Arizona State), Bill Oram of the Salt Lake Tribune (Utah), Ryan Divish of the Tacoma News Tribune (Washington) and Tom Kensler of the Denver Post (Colorado) join the Daily News’ Jon Gold for a roundtable discussion on what doomed the conference…and what it can do to fix itself.

5) Who is the future of the conference, either current players or recruits?

Jon Gold:: If UCLA reels in the class it dreams of – adding Shabazz Muhammad and Tony Parker to the already-signed Kyle Anderson and Jordan Adams – then the Bruins are right back among the nation’s elite. That hinges, though, on the maturation of Joshua Smith. If he works off the weight this summer, he’ll be the conference’s best player next year.

Jeff Faraudo:: Hard to know how many of the current young players will decide they are ready to conquer the NBA. I don’t expect to see Wroten or Terrence Ross at UW next season. Arizona has a great recruiting class coming in and they should be substantially better next season.

Doug Haller: : You know what? Colorado guards Spencer Dinwiddie and Askia Booker will be fun to watch the next three years. Dinwiddie was a Pac-12 All-Freshman choice this season and Booker (he reminds me of Venoy Overton in some ways) was just as effective. But the future of the conference resides in Tucson. I hate to pump up a recruiting class too much — because truth is, you never know how a player will turn out — but Sean Miller is recruiting on another level right now. Can’t wait to see Grant Jerrett, Brandon Ashley, Gabe York and Kaleb Tarczewski in college.

Bill Oram: : I’m hearing good things about Larry Krystkowiak’s son, Luc, but he’s about a decade away. Assuming we’re looking in the more immediate future, I don’t see how you can start anywhere other than with Arizona’s heralded class. If Kaleb Tarczewski ends up being as good as advertised, he will dominate this conference. The Pac-12 has never been a league for great centers — OK, Bill and Lew, I hear you, not “never” — but a skilled 7-footer is rare. UCLA’s class is also elite, and will be even greater if it can the country’s top recruit, Shabazz Muhammad. I’ll tell you what: If you want the Pac-12 to be nationally relevant again, having two of the top five recruiting classes in the country is a good start. While I think there are good, young players in the Pac-12, I’m not sure how much of a “future” they have in the conference. Tony Wroten may stick around, but don’t bet on it. Guards like Spencer Dinwiddie and Allen Crabbe have the potential to be even more elite in the next couple of seasons, but they also have NBA potential.

Ryan Divish: : People may think I’m crazy, but the future of this Pac-12 conference are players like David Kravish of Cal, Desmond Simmons and Andrew Andrews of Washington, Davonte Lacy of Washington State, Eric Moreland of OSU, Spencer Dinwiddie and Askia Booker of Colorado and Chasson Randle of Stanford. The conference has been decimated by players either transferring (usually from UCLA) or leaving for the draft earlier than they should. The players listed above are players that aren’t going to leave early. They are four- and five-yea players. With the exception of Andrews, who redshirted, all the other players saw significant minutes as freshmen this season and made contributions. Those types of players provide a better foundation for teams than one-and-dones. Just look at Jorge Gutierrez and Harper Kamp at Cal or how much Solomon Hill means to Arizona and EJ Singler and Garrett Sim mean to Oregon. Good quality upper classmen make the league strong consistently.

Tom Kensler:: Wroten, Cal’s Shasson Randle and Colorado’s Spencer Dinwiddie may have been the top freshmen. And remember, Cal’s Allen Crabbe, Washington’s Terrence Ross and Colorado double-double machine Andre Roberson are only sophomores. Arizona’s incoming recruits will change the face of the conference, and incoming Colorado signee Josh Scott, a 6-9 forward-center, will be a difficult matchup.

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Pac-12 Roundball Roundtable Pt. 4

These are no Siskels and Eberts, but a handful of Pac-12 beat writers had the best – or worst? – view of what was one rotten men’s basketball season. Jeff Faraudo of the Oakland Tribune (Cal), Doug Haller of the Arizona Republic (Arizona State), Bill Oram of the Salt Lake Tribune (Utah), Ryan Divish of the Tacoma News Tribune (Washington) and Tom Kensler of the Denver Post (Colorado) join the Daily News’ Jon Gold for a roundtable discussion on what doomed the conference…and what it can do to fix itself.

4) Who should’ve won conference player of the year?

Jon Gold:: No brainer – Gutierrez.

Jeff Faraudo: Despite rough games at Colorado and Stanford to end the season, Gutierrez was the right choice.

Doug Haller: : Although Ross had some unstoppable stretches, Tony Wroten is the Player of the Year. In a key game against Arizona, the Wildcats couldn’t keep him out of the lane or off the offensive boards. I asked Kyle Fogg about it after the game and the Arizona guard simply shrugged and said, “He’s a pro.”

Bill Oram: Before Sunday my vote would have gone for Gutierrez, hands down. And if you consider the body of work throughout the season, I still think that was the right choice. Gutierrez was harmed by the fact two of his worst games of the season came at the very end of the year, when his team really could have used him. I recognize that this is a big piece of making a “player of the year.” But Gutierrez bailed his team out of so many jams, and diffused so many situations, that I don’t think he deserved to be bumped from the spot. I wouldn’t have complained, however, if Washington’s Terrence Ross or Joseph won. I suspect Joseph was dinged because he was ineligible for the first three weeks of the season following his transfer from Minnesota. Not sure that’s fair, particularly considering he led Oregon to an unexpected run throughout the Pac-12 schedule.

Ryan Divish: I have no problem with Gutierrez being the player of the year. I can understand why the coaches chose him and their reasons behind it. But I guess I would have chosen Terrence Ross. He was the best player on the best team in the league. Yes, having Tony Wroten helped him. But Gutierrez had Justin Cobbs and Allen Crabbe. Ross carried the Huskies in about four games, and saved them from losses to UCLA, WSU, Stanford and even Utah.

Tom Kensler: I didn’t have any problem with the selection of Gutierrez. But strong consideration should have been given to Oregon State’s Jared Cunningham, who leads to conference in scoring and steals.

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Pac-12 Roundball Roundtable Pt. 3

These are no Siskels and Eberts, but a handful of Pac-12 beat writers had the best – or worst? – view of what was one rotten men’s basketball season. Jeff Faraudo of the Oakland Tribune (Cal), Doug Haller of the Arizona Republic (Arizona State), Bill Oram of the Salt Lake Tribune (Utah), Ryan Divish of the Tacoma News Tribune (Washington) and Tom Kensler of the Denver Post (Colorado) join the Daily News’ Jon Gold for a roundtable discussion on what doomed the conference…and what it can do to fix itself.

3) Who was the best player you saw this season and why?

Jon Gold:: Forget my earlier potshot at Gutierrez – he is the conference’s most exciting player to watch, and ultimately, its best. What that says about the rest of the league is up for debate. But after starring at mighty Findlay Prep in Las Vegas, he came to Cal ready to play.

Jeff Faraudo: My trip to Seattle — and my only chance to see Tony Wroten in person so far — was wiped out by a snow storm. Jorge Gutierrez doesn’t dazzle with above-the-rim stuff, but he’s so smart, so tough, so versatile he elevates Cal’s team.

Doug Haller: : The scoring display Terrence Ross put on in the second of Washington’s win over Washington State in January was the best performance I’ve seen in four years of covering this conference. Ross shot 1 of 9 in the first half, then exploded for 26 points in the second. He finished with 30 points and 14 rebounds.

Bill Oram: My memory is pretty clouded by the display Devoe Joseph put on against Utah last weekend, but I’ll try to penetrate that. I still think Jorge Gutierrez was the best player in the Pac-12 in terms of what he did for his team (I see this is something I will be able to extrapolate on shortly), but if we’re talking about pure talent, I don’t know how you can top Jared Cunningham. The Oregon State guard is the most dynamic player in the Pac-12, period. He can score on absolutely anyone, is a lockdown defender, and can throw down a double-pump reverse jam in traffic. Absolutely stunning.

Ryan Divish: Thanks to Washington’s schedule, I got to see Marquette and Duke. But Terrence Ross is still probably the best player I watched in the Pac-12. There were other impressive players, but Ross’ improvement defensively, his ability to rebound and his versatile offensive game make him the best. What impresses me more is that he plays within the flow of the game. He doesn’t play just to put up numbers or dominate the basketball. He just plays and plays well.

Tom Kensler: Cal’s Jorge Gutierrez struggled offensively in both games against Colorado. Perhaps he was trying too hard, having left Mexico to play high school basketball in Denver. But it’s impossible not to notice all things that Jorge does for his team, at both ends of the floor. Washington’s Tony Wroten will be scary good as he matures.

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Pac-12 Roundball Roundtable Pt. 2

These are no Siskels and Eberts, but a handful of Pac-12 beat writers had the best – or worst? – view of what was one rotten men’s basketball season. Jeff Faraudo of the Oakland Tribune (Cal), Doug Haller of the Arizona Republic (Arizona State), Bill Oram of the Salt Lake Tribune (Utah), Ryan Divish of the Tacoma News Tribune (Washington) and Tom Kensler of the Denver Post (Colorado) join the Daily News’ Jon Gold for a roundtable discussion on what doomed the conference…and what it can do to fix itself.

2) Why do you think the conference fell so far, so fast?

Jon Gold:: Some major recruiting whiffs by the conference’s top schools two and three years ago created a trickle down effect, so not only did the rich not get richer, but the poor got a little wealthier, creating one horrendous middle class. When a kid like Taft’s Spencer Dinwiddie ends up at Colorado and shines – and not as a backup at say, UCLA – then comes the parity.

Jeff Faraudo:: Lots of reasons, including recruiting mistakes, player defections (both to the NBA and other schools), coaching instability, lack of national TV exposure and, ultimately, UCLA’s struggles. For better or worse, the Bruins have been the league’s basketball flagship since the 1960s, and when they’re bad the conference suffers.

Doug Haller: : Everyone starts with the early departures, and yes, they have played a significant factor. But that’s a cop out. Every conference has early departures. (In fact, over the past four years the Big 12 has had more players with eligibility remaining leave for the NBA.) The bigger issue is recruiting. According to Rivals, the conference produced just three Top 10 recruiting classes from 2008-2010. That wasn’t enough to offset the early departures.

Bill Oram: : Well, it was Utah’s first year in the league… Kidding. Sort of. I do think there is some truth to the fact the conference sent so many players to the NBA in recent years. Over the last four years, the Pac-10/12 lost 21 players who still had eligibility to the NBA Draft. And then there are the guys who left for non-NBA reasons: Matt Carlino, Mike Moser, Reeves Nelson, Jabari Brown, Keala King, Richard Montgomery, Jio Fontan… That’s the abridged list. Every departure doesn’t just represent a great player leaving, it also means another hole that will be filled by a wild card newcomer, likely a freshman. Freshman-heavy teams generally struggle. I do, however, think it’s very easy to be amid a season and scream, “This season is so bad!” And it is. But consider this, which Ken Pomeroy pointed out in an interview this week: In 2003-04, six Pac-10 teams finished with losing records (we’re looking at four this season), and UCLA went on to reach three Final Fours.

Ryan Divish: : Really, it’s all Reeves Nelson’s fault. Let’s just blame it all on him. Just kidding. It fell short because the player turnover was high and some of the returnees just didn’t get any better. UCLA is obviously the prime example. They lost to players to early entries and then Josh Smith comes in 60 pounds overweight and out of shape. Washington State loses Klay Thompson, predictably. But DeAngelo Casto wasn’t expected and it hurt them dearly. You just can’t have both factors. Teams like Washington, Arizona and even Colorado were relying on a lot of freshmen and inexperienced players early which led to inconsistency. USC, which wasn’t supposed to be good in the first place, was destroyed by injuries. Oregon State had talent, but couldn’t find a true leader on the court.

Tom Kensler:: Coaching turnover at several schools, players transferring out and the loss of all those NBA draft picks a few years ago. But, frankly, after three down years for the Pac-12, the latter explanation feels like ancient history.

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Pac-12 Roundball Roundtable Pt. 1

These are no Siskels and Eberts, but a handful of Pac-12 beat writers had the best – or worst? – view of what was one rotten men’s basketball season. Jeff Faraudo of the Oakland Tribune (Cal), Doug Haller of the Arizona Republic (Arizona State), Bill Oram of the Salt Lake Tribune (Utah), Ryan Divish of the Tacoma News Tribune (Washington) and Tom Kensler of the Denver Post (Colorado) join the Daily News’ Jon Gold for a roundtable discussion on what doomed the conference…and what it can do to fix itself.

1) How bad was the brand of basketball played in the Pac-12 this season compared to in years past?

Jon Gold: So bad that it almost made you forget that there were once brighter days. Much brighter days. Even last year, which was not a great season, was far, far better than the collective stink bomb offered by the league. This is the conference of Alcindor and Walton and Payton and Bibby and Roy and now it’s the conference of … Jorge Gutierrez?

Jeff Faraudo: One of the worst seasons I’ve watched, and I’ve seen a few. The middle of the pack is OK. The problem is there are no great teams at the top, and the three at the bottom are absolutely horrible. Among the worst in recent league history.

Doug Haller: I cover Arizona State, so maybe I’m not the best person to ask. But it was bad. Everything that could’ve gone wrong, did. USC’s Jio Fontan blows out a knee. Arizona’s Kevin Parrom (an all-conference talent in my opinion) gets shot. UCLA’s Reeves Nelson gets kicked off the team. Joshua Smith shows up out of shape. Oregon’s Jabari Brown, hyped as one of the Pac-12′s top freshmen, transfers. The stream of misfortune never ended, and the product suffered.

Bill Oram: Well, it certainly wasn’t good. The first sign was when Arizona lost to Seattle Pacific. It’s kind of hard to really gauge how much teams, such as that Wildcats, which had those early losses, actually improved when those same teams ended the season with losses to opponents like, oh, Arizona State (such as the Wildcats). I don’t hate this season in the Pac-12 entirely, because it made for a lot of parity and a lot of unexpectedly close games. I loved how the final weekend played out, purely from a drama standpoint. But that absolutely killed any chance the conference had in terms of polishing its national profile before the tournament. By the end of the season, I think the good teams in the conference — Oregon, Washington, Cal, Arizona — were actually quite good. Their best players were coming on strong (minus Jorge Gutierrez, sheesh). The crucial wins at the end just weren’t there.

Ryan Divish: Obviously it wasn’t good. There isn’t the depth of talent as in past years. And a lot of the best talent was largely inexperienced. That combination led to some troubles in the preseason. Nearly every team relied on multiple underclassmen – either a true freshman, redshirt freshman or an inexperienced sophomore – to not only play, but play heavy minutes and contribute. Also the senior class around the league wasn’t particularly strong – with most of the top players already in the NBA. That being said, the basketball being played at the end of the year wasn’t horrible. The top nine teams were competitive with each other during conference play. The league was maligned nationally, and for good reason. But I don’t think it was catastrophically awful like some people made it out to be.

Tom Kensler: As a beat writer for Colorado, this is my first year in the league but the quality of play, talent level of the teams and depth of the conference certainly has a way to go to match that of what CU was accustomed to facing in the Big 12.

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OT: Rest in Peace, Amy

I’m sitting here listening to Jose Gonzalez and drinking a beer and trying to remember the last time I heard my sister laugh.

Life has been one challenge after another for Amy. There have not been a lot of laughs in recent years.

She battled health and emotional issues for 20 years, and after a brief bout with pneumonia and septicemia, Amy Suzanne Wishnie died today at the age of 36, surrounded by her family.

She was born on April 24, 1975 in San Francisco, Calif., to Judith Abel and Dennis Wishnie, three years after my older sister, Lauren. She wore pigtails. She danced to Singing in the Rain. My father, Mitch – Amy’s stepfather – can’t stop talking about her freckles and her eyes, her huge eyes. He says he can remember the first time he saw her, those massive eyes staring up, looking like a Walter Keane painting.

She was a vibrant little girl, a ham. She and Lauren put on shows after dinner for the family. And she was smart. Man, was she smart. Impossible to beat in Scrabble. When I finally did, I thought I’d toppled Stalin.

Twenty years ago – it will be exactly 20 years in five days – she was involved in a car accident with two of her high school friends, returning from a Junior Statesmen of America conference. There was a car parked in the fast lane of the 101 freeway near Menlo Park. The driver saw it too late, veered to the right and was clipped. The car rolled across the freeway, crashing on its hood. Amy was in the backseat. The two girls in the front seat walked away mostly unscathed. They needed the Jaws of Life to take Amy out of the car, and more than 30 minutes. Amy was left paralyzed, her T-1 vertebra crushed.

She was 16.

After 39 hours of surgery, they tried to put her back together again. They did their best. But she could not walk. No sensation below the waist. Shackled to a wheelchair for the rest of her life. They made sure she learned how to move in her wheelchair, how to go forward and how to stop. They taught her how to drive a car with only hand controls. They taught her how to become self-sufficient without the use of her legs.

Only you could not harness Amy, you could not hold down that stubborn will. Her physical therapists tried to convey to her that to dream of walking was like dreaming of flying, forever out of reach. That did not register. The chief of staff at her rehab center tried to make it clear, as some doctors do, “I have been doing this for over 30 years. You’re going to have to accept the fact that you have a one-in-a-million chance of ever walking.”

“She looked up from her wheelchair,” my father, Mitch, her stepfather, recalled, “And said, ‘One-in-a-million is a statistic. I won’t believe that statistic. I’ll get into Stanford and I’ll walk again.”

Easy to tell which one was more realistic. She was a 4.6-GPA student at the prestigious Lick-Wilmerding School in San Francisco. She was headed to Stanford.

And she would walk again.

With the aid of one crutch and leg braces, she was up and out of her chair. She never looked so alive as she did when she would walk down the street, knowing she had the strength to do what 99 percent of us could not. One day she told my father that she was glad she was the one who got in an accident, and not Lauren, because she knew she had the strength to handle it.

And she did, for as long as she could. The recent years have been a struggle, a gradual – and sometimes rapid – physical and mental deterioration that ultimately overwhelmed her. She accomplished some remarkable feats – transferring to and graduating from UC Berkeley, living on her own, working on San Francisco mayor, and eventual Lt. Governor of California, Gavin Newsom’s speech-writing team – but her body just could not handle it, and at times, neither could her spirit. Our relationship was fractured for a long time, but I had only recently told my mother that I wanted to reconnect.

Instead, I’m sitting here, trying to think of the last time I heard her laugh. I’m picturing her running on the beach, in those pigtails. The waves splashing at her legs, the hot sand tingling her feet. I’m picturing her through my father’s eyes, as he does, twirling around with her big sister Lauren, holding umbrellas and dancing and singing along to Singing in the Rain. I’m picturing her laying in my mother’s arms, my mom stroking her hair and calming her to sleep.

For 20 years, that’s what my mom did best. Through emergency after emergency, catastrophe after catastrophe, my mom was there for Amy, in ways simply incomprehensible to me. I imagine it is easy for a parent to pour heart and soul into a child when their hopes and dreams for them are real, tangible things. The sound of my mom’s voice when I call her to tell her about a big story or a cool radio interview, the pure pride that just oozes out of her, that’s one thing. The sound of my mom talking about my niece and nephew – her absolute joys – it just radiates, so utterly proud of my sister and what she’s created.

A long time ago, my mom came to the realization that such accomplishments just weren’t in the cards for Amy. She did some remarkable things, but the fight just became too hard. One complication after another, one setback after the next. For my mom to maintain that love, to always be there to stroke her hair and soothe her, is quite simply the strongest act I’ve ever seen someone accomplish.

I’m a sportswriter. I see acts of strength almost on a daily basis, of will and of want and of overcoming obstacles. That’s nothing. Nothing. Listen to a mother calm down a grown woman in constant pain, and do so day after day, and then you’ll know strength.

It was – and remains – a love that cannot be captured in words. For the most part, I make it easy on my mom. I may call for a few bucks every (often) so (often) often, but that’s about it. Amy’s recent years were filled with a lot of heartache, but my mom persevered because of that love.

Ultimately, the most loving act my mother could do was let Amy go.

It was not easy. Our late-night phone calls the last few nights have felt like someone taking a hacksaw to my soul, just hearing the pain in my mom’s voice. She knew it was coming. It would’ve been cruel to hold on too long.

My mom, Lauren and Amy’s father, Dennis, made their peace on a Saturday afternoon. Thirty minutes after being taken off life support, at roughly 5:13 p.m. on March 3, at the age of 36, Amy Suzanne Wishnie passed away.

My mom remained remarkably strong through it all, comforted by one last thing.

The last thing that my mom heard from my sister Amy, on the phone Sunday night, summed up the 20-year struggle.
“Mommy, your voice is so comforting. Can you stay on just a little longer…”

I hope you’re not in pain any more, Amy.

I love you.

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