OT: Rest in Peace, Amy

I’m sitting here listening to Jose Gonzalez and drinking a beer and trying to remember the last time I heard my sister laugh.

Life has been one challenge after another for Amy. There have not been a lot of laughs in recent years.

She battled health and emotional issues for 20 years, and after a brief bout with pneumonia and septicemia, Amy Suzanne Wishnie died today at the age of 36, surrounded by her family.

She was born on April 24, 1975 in San Francisco, Calif., to Judith Abel and Dennis Wishnie, three years after my older sister, Lauren. She wore pigtails. She danced to Singing in the Rain. My father, Mitch – Amy’s stepfather – can’t stop talking about her freckles and her eyes, her huge eyes. He says he can remember the first time he saw her, those massive eyes staring up, looking like a Walter Keane painting.

She was a vibrant little girl, a ham. She and Lauren put on shows after dinner for the family. And she was smart. Man, was she smart. Impossible to beat in Scrabble. When I finally did, I thought I’d toppled Stalin.

Twenty years ago – it will be exactly 20 years in five days – she was involved in a car accident with two of her high school friends, returning from a Junior Statesmen of America conference. There was a car parked in the fast lane of the 101 freeway near Menlo Park. The driver saw it too late, veered to the right and was clipped. The car rolled across the freeway, crashing on its hood. Amy was in the backseat. The two girls in the front seat walked away mostly unscathed. They needed the Jaws of Life to take Amy out of the car, and more than 30 minutes. Amy was left paralyzed, her T-1 vertebra crushed.

She was 16.

After 39 hours of surgery, they tried to put her back together again. They did their best. But she could not walk. No sensation below the waist. Shackled to a wheelchair for the rest of her life. They made sure she learned how to move in her wheelchair, how to go forward and how to stop. They taught her how to drive a car with only hand controls. They taught her how to become self-sufficient without the use of her legs.

Only you could not harness Amy, you could not hold down that stubborn will. Her physical therapists tried to convey to her that to dream of walking was like dreaming of flying, forever out of reach. That did not register. The chief of staff at her rehab center tried to make it clear, as some doctors do, “I have been doing this for over 30 years. You’re going to have to accept the fact that you have a one-in-a-million chance of ever walking.”

“She looked up from her wheelchair,” my father, Mitch, her stepfather, recalled, “And said, ‘One-in-a-million is a statistic. I won’t believe that statistic. I’ll get into Stanford and I’ll walk again.”

Easy to tell which one was more realistic. She was a 4.6-GPA student at the prestigious Lick-Wilmerding School in San Francisco. She was headed to Stanford.

And she would walk again.

With the aid of one crutch and leg braces, she was up and out of her chair. She never looked so alive as she did when she would walk down the street, knowing she had the strength to do what 99 percent of us could not. One day she told my father that she was glad she was the one who got in an accident, and not Lauren, because she knew she had the strength to handle it.

And she did, for as long as she could. The recent years have been a struggle, a gradual – and sometimes rapid – physical and mental deterioration that ultimately overwhelmed her. She accomplished some remarkable feats – transferring to and graduating from UC Berkeley, living on her own, working on San Francisco mayor, and eventual Lt. Governor of California, Gavin Newsom’s speech-writing team – but her body just could not handle it, and at times, neither could her spirit. Our relationship was fractured for a long time, but I had only recently told my mother that I wanted to reconnect.

Instead, I’m sitting here, trying to think of the last time I heard her laugh. I’m picturing her running on the beach, in those pigtails. The waves splashing at her legs, the hot sand tingling her feet. I’m picturing her through my father’s eyes, as he does, twirling around with her big sister Lauren, holding umbrellas and dancing and singing along to Singing in the Rain. I’m picturing her laying in my mother’s arms, my mom stroking her hair and calming her to sleep.

For 20 years, that’s what my mom did best. Through emergency after emergency, catastrophe after catastrophe, my mom was there for Amy, in ways simply incomprehensible to me. I imagine it is easy for a parent to pour heart and soul into a child when their hopes and dreams for them are real, tangible things. The sound of my mom’s voice when I call her to tell her about a big story or a cool radio interview, the pure pride that just oozes out of her, that’s one thing. The sound of my mom talking about my niece and nephew – her absolute joys – it just radiates, so utterly proud of my sister and what she’s created.

A long time ago, my mom came to the realization that such accomplishments just weren’t in the cards for Amy. She did some remarkable things, but the fight just became too hard. One complication after another, one setback after the next. For my mom to maintain that love, to always be there to stroke her hair and soothe her, is quite simply the strongest act I’ve ever seen someone accomplish.

I’m a sportswriter. I see acts of strength almost on a daily basis, of will and of want and of overcoming obstacles. That’s nothing. Nothing. Listen to a mother calm down a grown woman in constant pain, and do so day after day, and then you’ll know strength.

It was – and remains – a love that cannot be captured in words. For the most part, I make it easy on my mom. I may call for a few bucks every (often) so (often) often, but that’s about it. Amy’s recent years were filled with a lot of heartache, but my mom persevered because of that love.

Ultimately, the most loving act my mother could do was let Amy go.

It was not easy. Our late-night phone calls the last few nights have felt like someone taking a hacksaw to my soul, just hearing the pain in my mom’s voice. She knew it was coming. It would’ve been cruel to hold on too long.

My mom, Lauren and Amy’s father, Dennis, made their peace on a Saturday afternoon. Thirty minutes after being taken off life support, at roughly 5:13 p.m. on March 3, at the age of 36, Amy Suzanne Wishnie passed away.

My mom remained remarkably strong through it all, comforted by one last thing.

The last thing that my mom heard from my sister Amy, on the phone Sunday night, summed up the 20-year struggle.
“Mommy, your voice is so comforting. Can you stay on just a little longer…”

I hope you’re not in pain any more, Amy.

I love you.

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  • Carlos

    Oh man … I am so, so sorry. I dare not even imagine what kind of stuff you’re going through. Condolonces times 1000. I have a kid sister, and I don’t know where I’d be without her.

    RIP to your sister.

  • futurebruin13

    That was a beautiful piece Jon. I’m very sorry for your loss. It seems like Amy was an amazing person, a true inspiration, no doubt she is in a better place now, looking down on you and your family. I’m not a religious person at all, but ill say a prayer for you and your family tonight. RIP Amy.

  • Mike Sarzo

    This is such a powerful tribute to your sister. I know Amy is proud of you. I can feel her wishing that she could take away the earthly pain and let your family focus on everything you have accomplished in your life.

    And I’m sure she’s up there, racing the angels to let you know that you still mean the world to her, and that she loves you now and always.

    Anything I can type right now is of little to no comfort. I know that. But just know that I am very sorry to hear of your and your family’s loss, and I hope that you and the rest of your family can find a sense of healing and a sense of peace in the years ahead.

  • Maze

    Thank you for sharing this, Jon. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  • BRUINBEATCH

    May she rest in peace. I’m so sorry Jon. Really,I know I’m just a fan but it’s almost like I know you personally. My girlfriend interupted me while I was reading this and I said ” omg, hold on! My sports editor’s sister just passed”. She said “who,Jon Gold?”. If you knew her that fact that she knows your name is a compliment. She hates sports and nothing I say sticks. Im a huge fan of your work and I have nothing but love and respect for you and what you do. I’m sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and yours.

  • Ron Lumley

    Dear John,

    Your tribute to Amy puts life in perspective. It is very difficult trying to write to you through my tears. As a 60 year old father of a 13 year old daughter, I see things much differently now. Every time I hear or read a touching story of a young woman, my heart is troubled knowing that it could very well be my own cherished little girl. Hopefully every dad that has a daughter that reads about Amy, has the same compassion for you and your family and what all of you are going through. God bless Amy and her family. I would love to support any charity that her family sets up in her loving memory.

    Sincerely,

    Ron Lumley

  • Cliff

    I have visited your blog at least twice a day for the past year or so. Your blog provides a reprieve from some of the stress I face in my own life. Thank you for sharing this with us, your fans. My most sincere condolences to you and your family.

  • cliq

    Sports writer or not, you’re a good writer Jon, and I’m sure your sister would really appreciate this.
    Thank you for sharing with us.

  • CoronadoBruin

    Beautifully written, and for a beautiful person. So sorry to hear of this, Jon.

  • diehardbruin

    I’m so sorry for your loss Jon. This was a beautifully written, I’m sure Amy would agree. My heartfelt thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

  • RodneyGuillory

    Sports writer or not, its obvious that you are a respectable and responsible individual, Jon. Amy is proud of you and will continue on in your memories of her.

    I wish you and your family the absolutely very best during these times.

    Go Amy!

  • Anonymous

    So sorry to hear that, Jon. Your family is in my thoughts. Thank you for all that you do.

  • Reformed Droog

    Sorry for your loss, Jon. You and your family are in my thoughts.

  • Reformed Droog

    Sorry for your loss, Jon. You and your family are in my thoughts.

  • Marc

    Beautifully crafted, Jon. What a tribute to your Mom and sister… Peace to you, friend.

  • GmanC

    So sorry for your loss Jon. My thoughts and prayers with you and your whole family. Your tribute made me cry and feel for all those I hold dear…

  • Slippery Pete

    All the condolences that the Pete Family can pass on to you and your family. Man it got really dusty in this place reading about your sister and your family’s loss.

    Oh yeah and lets beat SC on Wednesday:p

  • BRUIN NC

    Jon, there is an old saying: the tasks ahead of us are never as great as the power behind us. It will be hard I’m sure but your support network- including those of us on the blog- are thinking of you and your family at this tough time. Regards and condolences to everyone in your family for your loss.

  • BE REAL

    For her to have been estranged from Jon Gold for so many years speaks to how she must have pushed most of the world away. But living in pain, every minute, can spoil our time on earth, or as Ralph Waldo Emerson explains:
    “Good-bye, proud world! I’m gong home:
    Thou art not my friend, and I’m not thine.
    Long through thy weary crowds I roam;
    A river-ark on the ocean brine,
    Long I’ve been tossed like the driven foam;
    But now, proud world! I’m going home.”

    Lawyer John

  • The Craw

    Jon, I hope you and your family are at peace. I only know you through your writing, but you have my sincere condolences.
    Take solace in knowing that Amy inspired you to write the most beautiful article of your career.

  • Anonymous

    Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

  • MichaelRyerson

    I am so sorry. Sincerest condolences to you and your family, Jon.

  • Indybruin

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  • Anonymous

    Your mother will be proud of you for this. This took guts.

  • Jon

    Thoughts and prayers to you and family. You have put things into perspective about what is important in life.

  • BSKB

    I’m sorry for your loss Jon. Thank you for sharing with something so personal with us in such a thoughtful and open way. This must be a very tough time for you and I hope you know how much we all care for you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  • snodman

    So sorry to read of your loss. Well written, as always. Thank you for being willing to share your very personal pain. We are all better for such sharing.

  • localbruin

    My condolences to you Jon, and to your family. God bless.

  • uclaone1

    John….Very sorry to hear this……What you wrote was heartfelt and extremely touching….Beautifully done…..

  • j_doe

    Jon, thanks for sharing your very personal story. Condolences to you and your family in this very trying time.

  • Bob

    Jon,

    We come to this place because of a common interest. We come here to get away from life and wrap our heads around Bruin sports just for the fun of it. In the process, in a weird way we’ve come to know Jon Gold, not just as a reporter but as a friend. I spent yesterday at a funeral for a dear friend who’s wife passed this week. Like Amy, Susan was an incredible person who was loved dearly. I’m not one to tear up all that often but I am very sad for my friend and now you. I pray for you and all of the your family.

    God Bless

  • Marko

    Jon, thanks for sharing such a personal story – great writing – inspirational and honoring Amy & your mom, I hope it helps the healing prices for all.

  • ucla-of-the-rockies

    Jon: Your best.
    And timely, as I was just with my ever-weakening father all weekend in the hospital. Thanks for the reminder that there is, indeed, life for those of us left here after such a seemingly cruel transition.
    RIP, Amy.

  • Anonymous

    Jon,

    I’m so very very sorry for your loss. What an absolutely remarkable tribute you’ve written for Amy. Deepest condolences to everyone in your family.

  • Boston Bruin

    Sorry for your loss Jon. Although older than you, I cannot imagine the feeling of losing a sibling.

    Although the loss tears the very fiber of your being and that of your family, and her friends, realize your sister is in a better place.

    Your honoring her memory is the highest measure of your love.

  • Anonymous

    Jon,

    I’m so sorry for your loss – but what a glorious tribute you paid to a remarkable woman….actually, make that two remarkable women

  • Anonymous

    Beautifully Written… I’ve got tears in my eyes… Thank you and My condolences!

  • RXBruin

    That was beautifully written, Jon. Condolences to you and your family. Hang in there pal.

  • Anonymous

    You and your family are in my thoughts. Thank you sharing your story with us. The story of Amy’s courage and determination despite the pain she was suffering is a reminder that as worked up about UCLA sports as we may be, they are just games after all. Amy was obviously a very strong person who tried to live life as she wanted in spite of her injuries. May she be free from the pain and suffering she endured. May you and your family find solace in knowing that Amy is at peace now.

  • Anonymous

    Sincerest condolences. And I have to believe that your hope for Amy has come true.

  • mark4UCLA

    So very sad. My condolences to you and your family. I never knew Amy….until I read your story. Thanks for sharing. May her memory be for blessing.

  • VB

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Your tribute to your sister was beautifully written and brought tears to my eyes. God bless you and your family.

  • tomas del amo

    Thank you for sharing this with us. I feel I know Amy, and I can only imagine the loss you feel. She will always be a strength in your life, and you will carry her beauty all of your days. God bless you all.

  • http://corinnem Ley

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. We all have to learn to live with the loss of family members during our short lives and it really makes sports seam so trivial. god Bless.

  • Matt Golper

    I am sorry for your loss, Jon. Amy is in a better place and has to be proud of your wonderful tribute. Thank you for sharing.

  • The Big Woof!

    Many others have put my thoughts into words much better than I could. Let me simply add my condolences and best wishes to you and your family as you continue on. You have also helped put in perspective the difference between the seriousness of real life and sports, which is only a diversion.

  • Ace

    Jon,

    My condolences to you and your family. May your sister rest in peace.

    God bless.

  • Rudy Garcia

    I cant imagine the loss of a sibling Jon…I hope your family is able to remain strong and get through this difficult time…you have the love and prayers of the entire Bruins family….take care

  • bibs

    Jon,
    What a beautiful tribute to your sister.May her memory live on in your life and that of your family.

  • BruinRogue

    My condolences, Jon. I hope you and your family can get through this and always remember the joy Amy brought in your lives.

  • 1987Bruin

    Thank you for sharing. Our thoughts and prayers to your sister, family, and you through this time. Go bless her soul and may she rest in peace.

    Glenn

  • Bruinheadhunter

    Jon,

    That brought tears to my eyes, and they continue as I type this. My heart goes out to you and your family. Although the situations may be different, we all have an Amy, and we need to love and appreciate her before she leaves us.

    All the best,

  • Rick Alexander

    I was overwhelmed by your words and the obvious love you had for your sister and your mother. I had to wait several minutes before writing this to compose myself and finish wiping the tears from my eyes. You and your family will be in my prayers. I hope that I am able to learn from your tribute and reconnect with some of my forgotten family members and enjoy their lives and company. Thank you for sharing and God Bless you.

  • Anonymous

    I’m so sorry for your loss. You have done a wonderful job of writing about your sisters life. You have honored her memory well.

  • Ern

    Your sister did what so very few people achieve in their lifetime. She achieved greatness.
    Thank you for sharing her story with its Jon. Beautiful.

  • Anonymous

    I understand what you’re going through as I’ve lost close family members that I loved dearly. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. RIP, AMY.

  • http://wideworldoftworts.wordpress.com/ CadChica

    My prayers and condolences to you and your family. She seems like a wonderful person…a real fighter..one who would never give up.
    Thank you for sharing her story.

  • Anonymous

    Jon,

    My sincere condolences for your loss. Know that there is a God and I’m sure that Amy is with the Angels in Heaven. – CoronaRay

  • DoubleBruin

    This brought tears to my eyes. May God bless her soul and give you and your family the strength to deal with her loss.

  • MoeBruins

    Jon,

    Very sorry to hear about the loss of your sister. That was an absolutely beautiful tribute to your sister and your Mom. I am sure your sister would be proud of you.

    Moe
    PS Thank you for sharing

  • Anonymous

    No man is an island entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main; if a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as a manor of thy friends or of thine own were; any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind. And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee. -John Donne

    Sorry for our lose.

  • Lifelong Bruin Fan

    I’m so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family, Jon.

  • Marc

    Jon,

    I am sorry for you and your family’s loss. The story brought tears to my eyes. My condolences to you and your family. Take care.

  • Anonymous

    So sorry .. My sympathies to you & your family. Your article is so well written – a great tribute to your sister & your mom .. May the peace that only God can give bless you!

  • sandiegobruinfan

    I was saddled up at The Amigo Room bar in Palm Springs last night after a morning triathlon and afternoon by the pool when I read your twitter feeds. Almost lost it in a sea of hipsters. My heartfelt wishes to you and your family at this very trying time. Thanks for sharing with us which you absolutely did not have to do. That means a lot. All the best!

  • doubletroublebruin

    Gutsy and personal piece to share with all of us, Jon. Sincere condolences.

  • Russ

    It easy to see how much loved your sister was. GOD BESS you Jon, your sister and all members of your family in this very difficult time.

  • Class of 66

    A Beautiful and Moving Tribute to Life, Love and Family.

    Thank you for this inspirational piece.

    My heart is with you.

  • DFarmer87

    A beautiful and touching tribute to your sister. Cheers.

  • PV Bruin

    Sorry for your loss Jon and thank you for sharing such heart warming story.

  • 74Psych

    Jon,
    Your memorial piece for your sister, Amy, is a testament both to the wonderful woman your sister was, but also to the strength and courage that she, your Mother, and family exhibited. This piece is 100x more powerful and important than any “sports” piece you will ever write.

    I am truly sorry for your huge loss, and want to tell you that by writing this you have shared a part of your sister that will live on as a part of all of us now and in the future.

    Thank you for telling us about Amy. We’re all better as a result.

  • INawe

    Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Sorry for your loss.

  • timmah

    So sorry to hear of your loss, Jon. Your story was a great tribute to the strength of will of your sister and the selfless love of your mom. Blessings and Peace to your entire family.

  • tim warren

    Jon,

    My heartfelt sympathies to you and your family.

  • OCBruinAlum

    Jon,
    That was a beautiful piece and thank you for sharing with us. Your sister has blessed many and by sharing this tribute with us, we were able to get a glimpse of how much of a beautiful person she was. My deepest condolences to you and you’re family.

  • The Blur

    Jon,

    Please accept my deepest condolences. May you find perspective and inspiration through these difficult times.

  • Bkwesq

    Jon, my condolences to you and your family. Special prayers for your mom who took care of your sister for so many years.

  • Heartfelt Condolences

    That was a beautifully written piece. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family, Jon. Thank you for sharing with us.

  • Bruinword

    Fantastic tribute to your sister and mother. My condolences!

  • rockyseto

    Very touching story Jon. God speed to you and your family.

  • Larry

    Great way to honor your sister and to say goodbye.

    Deepest regards!

  • TK Bruin

    So sorry, Jon. Times like these put things in perspective.

  • trueblue

    Jon, that was a beautiful piece. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. RIP, Amy.

  • Nathan Exp

    Your heart felt goodbye brought tears here.

  • Johnny Angel

    Hey Jon,

    I’m very sorry to read of the loss of your beautiful sister, Amy. My prayers are with you and your family.

    “But as for me, I know that my Redeemer liveth, and that He will witness at the last upon the dust; And when after my skin this is destroyed, then without my flesh shall I see God; Whom I, even I, shall see for myself, and mine eyes shall behold, and not another’s. My reins are consumed within me.” Job 19:25-27

  • Adam Zutler

    Thanks for sharing your family tragedy and heartbreak with us. My heartfelt condolences to you all. Best wishes

  • ucla34

    God Bless you and your family Jon. Lost my father in 2001. If feel your pain and loss. You never get over it, but learn to live and make them proud. She is up there with my day brotha! Deepest condolences. Stay strong for your mom and fam. God Bless you all again.

  • Amillennialist

    I’m sorry for your loss, Jon. You and your family are in my prayers.

    Regards,

    A.

    Martha said to Jesus, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died. But even now I know that whatever you ask from God, God will give you.”

    Jesus said to her, “Your brother will rise again.” Martha said to him, “I know that he will rise again in the resurrection on the last day.”

    Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live, and everyone who lives and believes in me shall never die” (John 11:21-26).

  • Anonymous

    One of the best things I’ve ever read. God be with you Amy and your family. My thoughts and prayers, whatever they are worth, are with your family Jon.

  • Joel S. Gershon

    Jon. Your sister was a remarkable young lady. It is absolutely beautiful how you have honored your sister and you mother’s immense love. I always enjoy your reading your words. However, this time I’m sitting her with tears streaming down my face. Your compassion and sensitivity matches your talent for the written word. May Amy rest in peace.

  • Chris

    Thank you for sharing Jon. You and your family are in my thoughts. What a story of love, determination, and devotion. Truly inspirational.

  • Rob M

    Sorry for your loss, Jon. A beautiful and courageous piece to share with your readers, your family should be very proud to have both of you. God bless your family during this trying time. May your sister rest in peace.

    Condolences,
    Rob M

  • snakeoiler

    Thank you, Jon, I was very moved by this. God Bless you and your family. Your sister was lucky to have a brother like you in her life, as were you lucky to have had her in your life for even a moment.

  • Tony

    So sorry to hear–My prayers are for you and your family

  • Bob

    My very best wishes to you and your family.

  • PV

    My thoughts are with you. Thanks for doing what you do, especially at this difficult time for you & your family.

  • Ryan

    Bravo Jon. You have done her right by celebrating her life in magnificent fashion. My best to you and your family.

  • MPP Bruin

    Hey Jon,

    I’m very sorry for your loss. I hope that the knowledge that a lot of people who read your blog are thinking about you and your family makes you feel better in some way.

    - Josh

  • Anonymous

    Beautiful piece, Jon. I’m terribly sorry for your loss and I wish you and your family solace through these tough times. Even now there is hope.

  • Anonymous

    Jon,

    Condolences to you and your family. What a beautiful piece. Hopefully it was somewhat therapeutic to write.

  • Anonymous

    God bless you and your family, Jon. My prayers and thoughts are with you all.

  • Michael C

    A beautiful comment.

  • Carlos

    So sorry for you loss. I loved your piece, I am sure Amy feels just the same.

  • Anonymous

    Jon, your writing was so poetic in this tribute to your sister. I offer my deepest sympathies to your entire family.

  • cj003

    Jon, so sorry to hear about your loss. May God bless you and your family, Im sure she is in a better place.

  • http://www.insidesocal.com/ucla/2012/03/ot-rest-in-peace-amy.html#_login Glowbruins

    Jon,
    I shared your story with my youth softball team. It reminded us all that there are far more important things in life than wins and loses. Our thoughts are with you and your family.

  • Jason

    Sorry for your loss Jon, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I was especially moved by the part about your mother. I hope she can find peace and strength after all she’s endured.

  • Songbird

    There’s a tear running down my face over the passing of a young woman whom I don’t know… except that through your writing, Jon, I *do* know your sister. I’d like to think that she’s dancing across the room right now, or maybe going for a run, or just walking to the corner coffeehouse.

    My deepest sympathy to your family. May we all be as loved as your sister.

    Songbird

  • Bruin Supporter

    Very sorry for you loss. God bless!

  • UCLA78

    Jon-

    I’m so sorry to learn of the loss of your sister. My deepest condolences to you and your entire family. Thank you for writing such a beautiful and moving tribute to her memory. Take care.

    Gerry

  • Deepest Sympathy

    My deepest sympathy to you and your mom. This puts life in perspective and that sports is just for entertainment and leisure.

    May your sister RIP

  • UCSBUCLAFan

    Jon,
    Thank you for the wonderful story and for sharing your family with us. I feel honored that you would do that.
    I am holding you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. God bless you all and rest in peace, Amy.
    Thank you, also, for all you do for us.
    Cathy

  • ucla84

    Very beautiful and very special, Jon. Like everyone else, please accept my deepest condolences.

    –SJH

  • bruinclassof10

    My condolences for your loss Jon.

  • Vin

    Jon, I am so sorry that you lost Amy so prematurely. We get so much insight and perspective from you on a daily basis, thank you for sharing with us, as always, during such a difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.

  • Coach Thom

    Jon

    This news has come like a thunderbolt and resonates deep in my core. A moving eulogy, quite heart-rending, but overflowing with love and reaffirmation of family values. My own sister is suffering from terminal cancer, and I will use your words to help comfort her…and myself.

    Thank you.

    Coach Thom

  • ETap

    Jon,

    From my family to yours, our deepest condolonces…

    Amy is now in a better place no longer suffering and with great company. She’s sitting next to Jesus and the Great John Wooden…Lucky Them!!!

  • Captain Obvious

    RIP Amy. Jon, tell your mom that she is a wonderful woman. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

  • HardtailBruin

    From my heart to yours Jon — love and prayers.

  • bruinstc

    Deepest sympathies to you and your family.

    Thank you for sharing your story.

  • James

    Jon,

    I’m so sorry for your loss but she is in a better place now. Stay strong and thanks for sharing Amy’s life story with us. God bless Amy, you and your family.

  • Manuel

    Dear Jon,

    Just want you to know that you and your famiy are in so many prayers and thoughts. You’ve done your sister well in eloquently telling us about her great strength and your mom’s love and endurance. Something all can use.

    You are so right about how physical strength pales in comparison to the inner strength to truly give one’s all.

    Your sister’s story I’m sure will serve to give others strength.

    May God give you and your family strength and comfort.

    God bless
    Manuel

  • Oldbruinnut

    Jon, our prayers and thoughts go out to you and your family. Thanks for sharing such a touching and inspirational story about your sister.

  • Peter Hernandez

    Jon, I am deeply sorry for your loss. Being in a chair for 13 years and counting, I can relate to the pain your family and your sister went through. But I have not lost my sister yet. I wish our loved ones didn’t have to die, but they do. For that take my condolences and remember this. People in chairs like your sister and myself live or lived life never to walk. But wherever she is now, she is walking again. Maybe even running on a beach again.

    Peter Hernandez

  • Peter Hernandez

    Jon, I am deeply sorry for your loss. Being in a chair for 13 years and counting, I can relate to the pain your family and your sister went through. But I have not lost my sister yet. I wish our loved ones didn’t have to die, but they do. For that take my condolences and remember this. People in chairs like your sister and myself live or lived life never to walk. But wherever she is now, she is walking again. Maybe even running on a beach again.

    Peter Hernandez

  • Anonymous

    May your sister rest in peace.

  • doug4ucla

    Jon sorry for your loss….my mother always told me when your work on earth is done the Lord will call you to his side…….she is smiling down on us all….

  • UCLABZ

    Jon,
    My thoughts are with you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss.

    -Ben

  • 1999ucla

    I’m so sorry for your loss Jon!!!!!

  • BruinFan05

    Jon,
    Thank you for sharing your personal story with us. I am so sorry for your loss.

    Andrew

  • Joe

    Jon,

    I’m very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family at this very difficult time. Your Sister Amy set a great example for us all in how to live our lives. Thanks for sharing this difficult story and hang in there, only remember the good times, Amy has had already forgotten the bad ones!

  • Anonymous

    You and your family are in my prayers.

    RIP AMY.

  • Trojan 70

    As difficult as it is for the ones left, please know that she is in a much better place now – free of pain and wrapped in God’s arms. God speed.

  • bruinbball5

    Thoughts and prayers to you and your family

  • Bruin96InDC

    Thoughts and condolences to you and your family.

  • Mike

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and your family, and may you find peace knwoing Amy is free of pain now. Thanks for sharing your beautiful tribute.

    The world is a better place for having people like Amy and your mom.

  • http://www.yahoo.com BruinRob

    Jon, so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing all your loving memories of your sister with us. Deepest condolences and may God bless you and your family. Amy, Rest In Peace.

  • Jim Tyner

    Fight On Amy, and Fight On Jon. Thank you for sharing. I am sorry for your loss, but it sounds like Amy is in a better place. May God Bless her.

  • Resoure Guy

    Jon,
    So sorry for your loss. RIP Amy. Your Mom is a saint. She is a model for all parents and I admire her strength.

  • Diane

    Jon, thank you for sharing such a personal story. It was a moving tribute. I am a football parent who regularly checks your blog and today’s post is a definite reminder that there’s more to life than college football. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family (especially your mom).

  • Mark

    Jon, thank you so much for sharing. Very sorry for your loss. We are praying for you and your family.

  • Sunset Bruin

    My prayers go out to you and your family, Jon.

    May the God of all comfort, who comforts us in our trials, comfort you so that you can comfort others when they are distressed. (2nd Corinthians 1:3-4)

  • UCLA ’64

    What a beautiful tribute! I am very sorry for your loss. Blessings to you and your family, particularly to your mother.

  • BruinTran

    Sorry to hear the terrible news. My thoughts are with your family.

  • PTAYLOR

    Deepest sympathies to you & your family.

  • BE REAL

    This piece by Jon Gold and the overflowing of emotional response by the bruin faithful has stayed in my craw for a couple of days now, and here are a few observations:

    1. Nice to see bruins behaving nice instead of bad-mouthing their football team and Coach Howland. By the way, did you catch how ex-SC coach Floyd paid Howland high tributes?

    2. I was wondering what the girl who was driving the car that night had to think about placing Amy in a lifetime of pain. Did she overreact that night? Was this accident preventable? Does she feel guilty?

    3. This tragedy underscores that God, hopefully there is a God, gives us free will and as such it is an imperfect world where terrible things will happen e.g. to Amy

    4. All the usual sympathies that Amy is in God’s hands, is in a better place, and is joined with her pre-deceased loved ones always makes me wonder about the people who are happy to be alone and don’t want to be joined with family and old friends in an afterlife, if such exists.

  • PUSC 3

    God Bless you Amy

    John, your little sister’s fight to walk again is true courage.

    God Bless you Amy

  • Matt Hagen

    Jon, I’m terribly sorry for the loss of your sister. My thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

  • ApacheZulu

    My family and I are extremely touched by this poignant, yet beautiful story about the rigors and pain of life, unconditional love, and the soul’s return to the spirit realm, Jon.

    Ultimate reality is assured for all beings everywhere–find [more] solace in that, please.

    Thank you for finding the inspiration to write and to share it with all of us, sir.

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you, as always.

    Be well.

  • SoSG Steve Sax

    I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for this piece, however–simply beautiful and a wonderful tribute to what sounds like a wonderful woman and a wonderful life.

    Go Cardinal.

    SoSG Sax

  • TruBruin

    Jon,
    The last time I was moved this way was while I read a piece written by a man named Jim Murry. I believe you have heard of him. Thank you for sharing…….

  • Ugly Boy

    That was a beautiful and tender article. My heart goes out to you and your family.

  • johncomd

    Best piece you’ve ever written. I felt your pain and your love. I think Amy gave you one last parting gift? I think I speak for everyone here when I say we wish we could have that beer with you, brother.

    John from T.O.

  • johncomd

    Best piece you’ve ever written. I felt your pain and your love. I think Amy gave you one last parting gift? I think I speak for everyone here when I say we wish we could have that beer with you, brother.

    John from T.O.

  • bruinbiochem06

    I’m sorry for your loss Jon. My condolences go out to your family.

  • Jenni

    So sorry for your family’s loss, Jon. Take care -
    Jenni from OC

  • Revol_Bruin

    So sorry about your loss, Jon. Your mother sounds like an amazing woman and Amy sounds like an extraordinary human being. God bless Amy and your family.

  • scottyciotta

    I’m on my husband’s account as he wanted me to read your heart- warming column about your very own beautiful hero. To be honest, usually I laugh at him for being such a die- hard Bruin fan who reads your columns on a constant basis, but today was different. I’m a new mommy and now my perspective on situations like this has changed significantly. Now, I look at such stories and my heart hurts, as a mom. What your family has gone through, what your mom has gone through and will continue to go through, is incredible. My heart, truly, hurts on her behalf. My baby was in the hospital for the common happenings of Jaundice and I wanted to rip my heart out. I really just couldn’t imagine. Our thoughts are with you and your family. With Love.

  • Anonymous

    Amy is a soul I will never forget. Impacting, dramatic, dynamic and brilliant.

  • J.E.

    I had the privilege to work on your sister’s care for the last month./ I’m sorry for your loss, my blessings your way